Mind games. So many mind games.

My husband (39M) and I (38F) have been together for 13 years,.....and things are at their end with our relationship. We currently live together with a plan to split within the next year or so once our financial situations allow us to move forward with our lives. We currently eat meals together as a family (we have 2 children), watch movies together, take the kids out together, and generally act like everything is normal. We both try to be amicable for the children (even thought they are aware things are not good). My husband and I do not sleep in the same room however. I am DONE with him touching me ever again. Like EVER EVER. He has attempted (on many occasions) to cheat on me with people from our friendship groups over the years. First it was his best friend's fiancee. Then it was our neighbor's wife. Then later is was our oldest son's best friend's older Sister.

Anyway, a couple days ago I was dressed up really nice and feeling pretty (which is honestly hard to feel when your spouse chases after other women your whole marriage), and he came up to me and said "You look beautiful. But aged beautiful, not hot like how younger women are. You don't fit that category anymore. Definitely beautiful, but not hot or sexy". Idk why I cared or why it has been hurting me so much ever since, bit it really did. I mean, I was aware the women he had tried to cheat on me with were much younger than us *gross*, but it still felt like a knife in my chest. He has always played mind games with me since we met, but this felt so open and true of the way he sees me. And I was never shrewd in the bedroom department so it felt like a major insult too. Idk why I care. Why do I care? Why am I hurt by this? I don't get my own feelings right now.