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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more Note: The group chat is not active atm. Update date: Jan 28, 2025.  Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
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Weekly Prompt #1: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 November 7th, 2025
...See more Welcome to 35+ Community,  As we navigate through our 30s and beyond, life presents us with unexpected challenges and triumphs that shape our experiences and perceptions and define who we are. These years bring a unique set of experiences and test our resilience, patience and push us out of our comfort zones, and ultimately lead to personal growth. Let's explore and share some of the surprising obstacles and victories that many of us encounter during this stage of life. Question of the week: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond? Please share and discuss together. Also, you can join us in 35+ group support chats [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD] for live discussions and exploration as well.  Click here to join! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD]
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Can't compete with porn!
by generousLand6550
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Does anyone else get tired of the whole porn things? I'm not big into watching porn, I'm more old school. I don't get it. I feel less than and not enough. I can't compete. 
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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more Note: The group chat is not active atm. Update date: Jan 28, 2025.  Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
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To whom it may concern . .
by Oldsoul1618
Last post
 Sunday
...See more Life can be hard. Living among people, navigating society, and carrying the weight of our own minds is not always easy. There are moments when we wonder whether we possess the strength, wisdom, or resilience to make our way through difficult and unfamiliar territory. There are days when we feel small, helpless, or emotionally drained. Days when we question ourselves more than we should. We stand in front of mirrors searching for answers, and sometimes we discover we have not yet found the right questions. Then there are quiet days. ordinary, uneventful days. I have learned to appreciate them. And sometimes a familiar face appears, someone who reminds me to offer the very best of who I am, even when I dont feel at my best. Sometimes I wonder whether I am grateful enough. As its something I thought I would have mastered by now, yet, it continues to be a daily practice rather than a destination. I remind myself that this life is an experience, a journey, a brief stop along a much greater path. I only wish I could remember that more often when life places obstacles in my way. So whatever you are carrying today, know that you are not alone. This moment, however heavy it feels, will one day become a memory. Every hardship is only one step on a long road. a road that, in one way or another, is leading us home. To my fellow travelers in this 35 + community : do not spend these precious years imprisoned by worry or regret. 40 is not the beginning of the end, its the stage of perspective. A chance to exchange certainty for wisdom, urgency for patience, and achievement for contentment. I wish you all peace, strength, and serenity as I wish them for myself too. It is not always easy to exist. But an extraordinary privilege to witness 40+ years of life. I hope this post touches someone in the way i inteded it to do .
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Maladaptive daydreaming
by affectionateOwl4692
Last post
 July 3rd
...See more So... I don't know what to do... I feel so anxious and scared that the characters and fantasies will come back if i will relax or they are already here and they will judge me because of me seeing beauty in everything i see and feel when I'm relaxed... I don't know what to do... I tried to relax but it feels forced... I'm wo scared and I don't know what to do...
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Im 131 lb and indont know how to get back down
by jadedhue
Last post
 July 3rd
...See more I’m going through high stress and I’m not getting any thinner I think this is the heaviest I’ve ever been. It’s even worse when my mom criticizes me for it too. And work was stressful the cherry on top when an instructor calls out and it’s almost nine pm. I mean it’s great to call out before hand but it’s fusterating I have to cancel students before tomorrow. I almost wanted to go to McDonald to eat my stress away but I didn’t. It’s like at work I have trouble keeping up with who is a student here. Anyone currently have weight struggles.
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Maladaptive daydreaming
by affectionateOwl4692
Last post
 June 30th
...See more Hi, so I have an amazing progress of getting rid of maladaptive daydreaming and I got rid of triggers and I stopped feeling anxiety and fear but now I do have a little bit of anxiety that it might come back, but I'm trying to show my brain that it's over, like, that's it, we are in reality and etc. (but honestly, I still sit on the phone and stuff like that because of this anxiety 𥲠but I will try to show my brain that it's ok instead of using phone) and I talked to myself and I talked about many things that made me laugh and, I felt goosebumps when I was laughing and stuff like that... And I don't know why... Maybe it's because I'm relaxing? Or something else? I don't know but I'm pretty anxious about it so... Yeah... I don't know... But I think I will try to calm down and just focus on what surrounds me and stuff like that so I can show my brain that it's fine, that it's ok, it will not bother me again, because the state that I'm in is pretty vulnerable so, I think it might be better to calm down and just look what surrounds me and listen to the sounds, watch the birds and just lay attention to surroundings so I can focus on reality and ect.
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how to take our power back?
by helpfulPlane2002
Last post
 June 27th
...See more Hi, i am 32 female ,my first marriage ended because my bil was harrasing me all the etime and i asked my husband to make things right and talk to hs brother but he left me alone ,then i got married again but this guy was cheating on m efrom day one ,i spent 5 years with the first one and then 4 years with 2nd one ,i was not allowed to go outside ,not allowed to talk to my siblings ,in both mrgs i was the one who was serving and giving love and care but it drain me all ,now i am separated from my 2nd husband i found out his many affairs ,now i started my study again and trying to build my life again ,but sometimes i wonder why i was not choosen for love ,why this happened to me just why ,i dont know 
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Maladaptive daydreaming
by affectionateOwl4692
Last post
 June 26th
...See more Hi, I'm new here. So, i have the anxiety and fear that maladaptive daydreaming will come back, and the characters and the fantasies and all that stuff, and I'm thinking... Maybe i can calm my brain by letting it know that it's all over? That is, I'm in reality, i hot rid of triggers, i got rid from things that make me feel discomfort and stress, and the progress is really good! It's amazing. So... Maybe i can show it that maladaptive daydreaming won't bother me again because of what progress that i have? But I do know how... And should i do it? Because... You know... I think that it's the only way to finally feel at peace and live a life, because, I've tried so many things and it helped actually, but now, i think letting my brain know that the fantasies are gone and they will never bother me again will be a good idea? I don't know...
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Tips on living alone (36F)
by emotionalorange4424
Last post
 June 26th
...See more I’m newly single after 8.5 years of living with my partner in this house, and I could use some help navigating my new situation as a 36-year-old woman with no children. For the most part, I’m very excited to live on my own for a while until we move out completely this summer. I’m so grateful that I got to stay in the house. But I can’t always ignore the void he left behind. Some days are awful. Tips on how to handle loneliness would be appreciated. other things I could use tips on: •creating a morning/evening routine •fun things to do at home alone •safety measures •mowing the lawn?? I’ve never done it before 😣 Thank you for anything you have to offer! So grateful for this community ❤️
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Home is wherever you can find yourself.
by ScottYhePhoenix
Last post
 June 26th
...See more Home is truly wherever you want it to be. It’s taken me a long time to be able to find comfort anywhere I can find myself. I grew up in the suburbs of a moderately large city, then moved out to a smaller town, where I struggled for a long time with the learning curve of small town living. Now I’ve moved to an even smaller town in the countryside. It’s important to find community wherever you are. You need a support network, and people you can trust to help you when things get difficult. You need to be able to care for yourself through all circumstances, because you will eventually encounter problems that you couldn’t imagine or control. There’s a lot more that goes into self reliance than just having a lucrative career. I believe humans aren’t solitary creatures, we cannot handle every circumstance in life on our own. So the ability to make friends in any situation is a tremendously remarkable skill, but it must be cultivated over time. I’m happy where I am, but I still miss my old hometown, and the consistency and comfort that came with it.
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Breakup
by InnerStatic
Last post
 June 26th
...See more Hi, I'm new here! I’m 48 going through a really difficult period after a breakup. Even though I knew the relationship wasn’t right for me, finding out my ex has started seeing someone else 5 months after the breakup has hit me harder than I expected. I’ve also been dealing with some health issues recently, which has made everything feel more intense and overwhelming. I keep catching myself replaying the good moments and feeling a sense of loss, even though I know there were real problems. Right now it feels like I’m just trying to get through each day without spiraling.
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Hey everyone!!
by indigoOrange6448
Last post
 June 24th
...See more You can call me Q Im new Like to make stew AMA.  Take care out there. 

Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!

Community Guidelines

The following are the guidelines which are specific to the 35 & Over Community. We ask you to follow them, as well as the Forum Guidelines. Their purpose is to ensure a safe and supportive environment for everyone.

The main goal of this sub-community is to offer support and a space to share and socialize, for the 7 Cups users who are 35 years old, or older. After reaching a certain age, people have specific life concerns that might not be shared by people who don't have as much life experience.
However, age isn't a requirement to participate in our sub-community.

All Adults are welcome!


However, please understand that teens as young as 13 years old can access these forums, so please keep topics appropriate.

So please:
- Reach out for support from your member account
- Offer support as a member or listener
- Be respectful to everyone
- Add a trigger warning  [TW] if your topic needs it
- Take care of yourself
- Take care of others
- Have fun!


 

For more detailed information about how to behave in the forums and in 7 Cups in general:

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Read the 7 Cups Guidelines
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Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!