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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 August 31st
...See more Note: The group chat is not active atm. Update date: Jan 28, 2025.  Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
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Weekly Prompt #1: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 July 14th
...See more Welcome to 35+ Community,  As we navigate through our 30s and beyond, life presents us with unexpected challenges and triumphs that shape our experiences and perceptions and define who we are. These years bring a unique set of experiences and test our resilience, patience and push us out of our comfort zones, and ultimately lead to personal growth. Let's explore and share some of the surprising obstacles and victories that many of us encounter during this stage of life. Question of the week: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond? Please share and discuss together. Also, you can join us in 35+ group support chats [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD] for live discussions and exploration as well.  Click here to join! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD]
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I don't know how to live with the fear that comes with having senior dogs
by tallCup6582
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more I am so grateful for 7cups for all the replies I got in my first post. It really helped me in my journey when I lost my 17 year old dog and also dealing with the health issues of my second oldest dog (14).  I often wondered why despite having experienced more than 10 pet losses in my age of 40, why is it that it still feels like the first time. I think the answer is the more I experienced it, I gained more knowledge about it and because I realized the possibilities of how it could happen, I got more aware of the possibilities of it whereas before I was kind of experiencing it for the first time with little knowledge and experience. I hope I am making sense. Now, it feels like I am walking on eggshells when it comes to their lives. I am terrified of the possibilities. I am extremely terrified. I love them most in this world. If I can do it all over again, I would not adopt pets. I'd rather I didn't discover this type of love. I don't think I am mentally equipped for this. I don't think I am emotionally equipped for this pain either. I found where the listener tab and support group tabs are, but I realized I am not only shy in person, but also online even though I am not facing anyone physically. People are also chatting there and I don't know if anyone could just join in. It's important I get over my shyness first. I am still living in fear with my dog's health condition. I am trying my best to be independent about the mental and emotional challenges that come with it, but it is getting heavy and dark again and the distractions are not working that much again. I don't know how to live with this depression and anxiety. I am a content and grateful person despite my life being far from perfect, but I am so terrified. I know I am not normal anymore, but I also need help to manage this.
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Help needed
by sensibleEyes1111
Last post
 11 hours ago
...See more How do you deal with nobody caring about you and loneliness
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Who Are You, Really?
by silverArrow67
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Let's walk the treacherous lane. Let's endure the unbearable pain. Let's overlook the falling world's demonic disdain. Just let your head on my shoulder lean... and reclaim the remaining of our life's remains. Between the fangs of ferocious, spiteful serpents, we have managed our way. Under the fiery arrows of malicious hearts, our home lay. But whenever I looked into your eyes, something used to say: Why do you feel my pain so intensely? You act out of pure mercy, without a second thought or delay. My baby, I'm the soul... the breath of life that moves the pulse into your veins. It's only me who could even feel your joy and your excruciating pain. silverArrow67 
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A Royal Proclamation
by silverArrow67
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more I can see you in the purple fringe of the wispy cloud, enlightened by the dusky sunbeam; Yes... I can see your message in the colors of the end-of-the-day dream. I was walking absolutely alone... seeking a meaning... a purpose... even a fake hope coloring the face of any hideous destination... But I heard your soulful sigh exactly before the darkness declares blackness without mitigation. It was not just a sigh... it was a majestic order and uncompromising royal proclamation: Stop wandering alone, the night can be our predestined purifying distillation. Yes... the bashful, hushful, hissing whisper of the night is our ultimate home... Who cares about the hectic world when our souls chose to defy their doom? The liminal tranquility of the night is our meeting place... What does the bright world mean to us, except our peace threatened and cruelly replaced? Come and explore the whole universe... the whole existence is breathing life into my breath... Come... you lost man... your true identity cannot be found anywhere except into my unfathomable depth. You read my message just immediately before the end of your day... So come willingly... the royal proclamation is meant to be obeyed without the slightest delay...
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Hello from Ding — glad to join this 35+ community
by MysticEast
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Hello everyone, I'm Ding, and I'm glad to be here with all of you. I come from a Chinese background and have spent more than 30 years studying Eastern philosophy and energy wisdom — ideas about balance, timing, and the cycles of life. Life in our 30s and beyond brings so much: relationships that change, careers that shift, loss, loneliness, and also hard-won wisdom. I've come to believe that very little in life is random, and that understanding our own patterns can bring real peace. I'm here to listen, to share an Eastern perspective whenever it might help, and to learn from your stories. Whatever you're carrying, you won't be judged here. Looking forward to connecting with you all. — Ding
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I feel lonely at times
by SatEp
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Hello 👋🏻 I'm 31 years old and though I have friends I feel lonely sometimes and I'd like to find new people to talk to. Btw I speak spanish too.
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Yet to really connect
by resourcefulPerson384
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more For real? Tell me how many have had luck connecting with sincere “listeners”/“therapist”?
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Lonely Wife Here...
by DisneyFanatic1984
Last post
 Sunday
...See more Hi! I need someone to talk to, or a friend. I’m not looking for a romantic relationship. I’m a wife, no kids. I love my husband, but things could be a lot better. I can’t talk to him because it creates arguments. I’ve tried the I feel, and we statements and it’s not working. At this point I’m disgusted just being around him and I hate myself for it. I feel like he’s this big kid, and I’m the responsible adult. Then other times, I feel like he is an old man, and I’m younger at heart. I’m 36 and he is 38. I feel like I’m stuck in my marriage. I don’t want a divorce, I just want things to get better but I don’t think they won’t. At this point... I’m just miserable and conflicted. He’s a good guy, I know the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. I just need someone to talk to. I’m weird but I prefer talking to men because I connect/ open up better. I just need someone who wants to listen and Give advice and isn’t sensitive to open minded, nothing off limits when it comes to talking kind of women. I curse like a sailor sometimes, and don’t have a filter most times. Thanks.
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A Lighthouse
by silverArrow67
Last post
 Saturday
...See more Her charming eyes always see far beyond the face value of any deceptive hoax; A piercing look could see how the awful facts under the torrents of illusion really look. On the same rugged seashore, you always find her, Holding a book in hand, staring blankly into the salty air. The hardships of her life always bring her here every day— The injustice, ill-treatment, and consecutive blows of fate, without second thought or delay. She always looks at the waves and in her heart says, "Could the storm do any harm to the sea? The hurricane could only lend the waves more power and hegemony." And the sea whispers back, "You are a tenacious boulder on my rugged seashore, Defiantly resilient, stubborn down to your very core. Upon your shoulders, a lighthouse should be erected, Not out of fear of darkness, but to stretch a guiding hand To the ones who feel overpowered and pitifully dejected. The stormy weather adds to my strength, And your adversities will become a guiding light to others throughout your life, and even after your biological death." silverArrow67 
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A Life Without Mystery
by silverArrow67
Last post
 Saturday
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The Autumn Breeze Can't Lie
by silverArrow67
Last post
 October 2nd
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Seeking Guidance for a Complex Set of Tax Problems
by Eme82
Last post
 October 1st
...See more Hello. Is there anyone who possesses expertise about taxes on this platform? I could use some help in a pro-bono capacity, but I don't know where I can turn to find it. Please leave a 👍in the replies if you would be okay with me DMing you my questions. Thank you for reading this post, and I wish you well.

Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


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Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!

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The following are the guidelines which are specific to the 35 & Over Community. We ask you to follow them, as well as the Forum Guidelines. Their purpose is to ensure a safe and supportive environment for everyone.

The main goal of this sub-community is to offer support and a space to share and socialize, for the 7 Cups users who are 35 years old, or older. After reaching a certain age, people have specific life concerns that might not be shared by people who don't have as much life experience.
However, age isn't a requirement to participate in our sub-community.

All Adults are welcome!


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So please:
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Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!