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Trying to help myself but made a mess

User Profile: Rebecca1117
Rebecca1117 March 19th, 2022

I’m middle aged. Never got where I wanted to be in my career. No relationship or marriage. Can’t find anyone I even like. Soooo I decided to return to graduate school for a second career .

things have changed in 18 years since I was in school last but I wasn’t aware . I’m in a hybrid program that starts off mostly online. I’m in my first semester and my instructor held on to 5 of my grades , charging me with plagiarism for using quotes . I’m mortified , ashamed and scared. I didn’t think I was plagiarizing. However it is my fault because I never really read her syllabus that states that quotes even with citations is cheating.

My family who is very toxic ( another issues entirely ) isn’t supportive of me. They doesn’t believe me. Say I’m a loser, a liar, mentally ill.

I’m so sad. Worst part is I’m a psychologist. I can’t help myself. I try to make changes to improve my life and things get worse. I just don’t know what to do .

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User Profile: GentlyHarsh
GentlyHarsh March 19th, 2022

@Rebecca1117

A lot of that resonates with me. I'm cleaning things up lately (internally and externally), and it always dredges up an emotional residue on the things I thought should have been simple and easy, but the "simple" things tend to each balloon into ten cumbersome things. I have a stack of partial to-do lists, for example, and going through them seems both necessary and frustrating beyond reason. Just the easiest seeming things becoming over-complicated because of the dumbest little snags that would never have happened if society didn't go off the deep end.

There is an odd vibe about plagiarism going around. I recently clawed my way into a freelance writing job, and I have learned that there is at once a full-on hair trigger about even suspected plagiarism plus a vapid unwillingness to be exact about what does and doesn't qualify as plag. It's kind of ridiculous.


User Profile: SalmaAbsolutelyUnique
SalmaAbsolutelyUnique March 19th, 2022

@Rebecca1117

Hi Rebecca i feel you.....just hang in there and dont let what others think get tou you.

Hey listen....your trying and that makes you a winner in my books.

Take care and hugz


User Profile: spongebob2021
spongebob2021 March 19th, 2022

@Rebecca1117

Have you tried the 7Cups chat rooms ?

I am inviting you to the 7Cups Sharing Circle chat room.