Can't compete with porn!
Does anyone else get tired of the whole porn things? I'm not big into watching porn, I'm more old school. I don't get it. I feel less than and not enough. I can't compete.
@generousLand6550 It is not all what it seems, people have all sorts of things done to help them perform and they may not really be into it like they pretend to be always. And a screen is never the same as having sex with a real person. I keep away too, it is not healthy for the brain. I am a Woman but I think that the worries are similar for Men or Women when they compare themselves.
@neatPear9815 my bf is sexual, so am I. Both have low confidence. He doesn't initiate. He watches porn to get things done. Then I start to feel less than and not attractive or sexy and makes things worse. I'm left with a lot of emotions; anger, hurt, sad, jealous, all the things. I just don't get it. Why does he get both, am I not enough.
I’ve talked to SO MANY people here with similar issues. People on both sides: the porn addict, and the partner who feels exactly the way you feel. I don’t have a solution but I do know that it’s not weird to feel this way and you’re not alone!
This is so challenging especially now as pornography in all forms is so easily accessible. The exposure and addiction can start so young and makes actual relationships and intimacy much more difficult to enter into and connect on such levels.
@enchantingUnicorn4617 agreed! It's always at your finger tips. It's frustrating, makes it hard to be with someone.
@generousLand6550 and it's difficult for them to see the impacts and make changes that would lead to better and stronger relationships.
@enchantingUnicorn4617 Exactly! I'm all for communication and building a stronger relationship. Building each other up. I'm so attracted to my bf and I love him 😍 I see the communication barrier. When he's watching porn I feel like I don't even want him to touch me. What's the point you got what you wanted, is t it enough.
@generousLand6550 have you talked with your bf about how you are feeling? This is a lot and really challenging, I am sorry that you are feeling this way.
@generousLand6550 tbh you’re not missing anything. I got into reading porn and it’s been absolutely horrible for my mental health and made me have panic attacks and hate myself and feel ashamed. You’re way better off without imo. Good for you for not getting into it ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@ThatOneGirllll I'm not the one who's into porn, my bf is. He's got a high sex driver and watches something on his phone to get the job done.....I guess! It's been so annoying and I feel like I can't compete with women like that. Maybe I don't see myself as sexy like that. It's as simple as when he watches I feel like he's bored or not attracted to me. I don't get why he does it
@generousLand6550 tbh I feel like sex is presented as way more okay than it actually is…sex shouldn’t be the foundation of your relationship. I can totally understand why you worry that he feels bored but if he leaves because of it then that’s stupid of him because a relationship is about way more than just sex yk?? Idk I personally am waiting for marriage so idk if any of this is helpful, it’s mostly just my opinion so sorry if this is pointless to say or smth
