Wits end
Dealing with myself 35 year old now mama I will be 36 years old next month on May 2nd and dealing with a sassy 11 year old daughter but she is really a sweet girl and my oldest daughter that is 13 that has taken it upon herself to report false accusations to her school counselor and then give her school counselor permission to call dhr and then said to dhr what my child said witch was not at all that was going on in the house yes I did take her privacy away but because I thought I was going to find my own child dead so yes when she took a shower I was in there the shower curtain was closed and when she got dressed I was in there but I was turned around not facing her and when she used the restroom I was with her I turned around not facing her I removed everything sharp from the house and her room my youngest daughter could not even sleep in her own bedroom because I was scared her sister might do something to harm her all this because she was caught in a chat room chatting with someone talking about cutting and self harming and killing there self’s and others so it might seem excessive or extreme but once I explained that to the dhr lady she just closed her note book and said that was not what was reported at all and I said because they wouldn’t know because they don’t know what I know and my reasons behind my child not having her privacy in my home and the rules I have set in place I thought I was doing what was best for my daughter because I love her and I was scared and didn’t want to find her dead one morning or her sister find her or someone else in our home so I took action and accountability as her mother and my child got me punished in the end if I’m ever reported again my life is over this is my first time ever dealing with dhr ever also sorry for the rant and the case is closed now but I am praying 5 years goes by fast
@sensibleWheel142
It is a terrible feeling that there are some strangers who convince themselves that they’re qualified to judge another stranger’s family dynamics. However, a great many child protection workers do a decent job. Regardless, it’s an awful feeling of vulnerability.
Would it surprise you to know that it isn’t unusual for children to threaten their parents with a child protection report, in an attempt to gain control of them? I’ve never been a child protection worker, but I was a guardian-ad-litem for a couple of years. I learned that a worker with decent observational skills can usually determine if a child’s report is factual and contextually significant.
My daughter wanted to get rid of her curfew, so threatened to make a report. I told her I loved her, but if she thought she’d be better off elsewhere, to go right ahead.
I don’t blame you for wanting to ensure her safety. I’ve no doubt that foster care, or more likely a group home would offer far less privacy than she has now, even with missing doors.
Did the worker suggest counseling or therapy?
i don't know much about children but that is a horrible thing to go through. my sister once accused my dad of giving her a lecherous gaze and it sets the house in turmoil. everything was chaos, this happened when we're all adults by the way. my sister...how do i put it? she's difficult, she likes attention and has a bit of a victim complex mindset. i sometimes caught her telling a straight lie, also she hates my guts too.
i guess what im trying to say is that, sometimes people are just not good. your daughter is young, she can still change. maybe try getting her to talk to a therapist/councillor. if she's someone who's thinking of self-harm, she's gonna need intervention. hope you have a good day
