Alone
My husband wants to leave me we have been together for about 18 years and have 3 kids our own house and I thought life was good. But he says he's not attracted to me anymore mainly from what he's said is due to me gaining some weight. We don't have sex anymore last time we did during he said to me remember it's just sex doesn't mean anything. What do I do I want my family together but finding it hard to make him even just like me right now.....
Hi dear! First of all ,as u s y ,u have gained some weight. That's why he doesn't find u attractive. It's time to give attention to urself first. I know u must be so busy in rearing Ur kids and all other domestic responsibilities. But find some time for u . Exercise/ hobby developing good cooking and maintaining home as well as yourself. U will definitely find positive change. Another thing, stop irritating for small things. That's the only thing ,husbands like.
Thank you for your reply. What small things do you mean just so I know what not to do?
@pinkHickory1084
hi sweetie. Im sorry youre going through this feeling. Married or not, the number one person you have to think about is you. Everyone is his and her own individual, independent. A significant other, let alone a spouse, saying that he is not attracted to you anymore due to weight gain is just plain wrong. Love goes beyond the physical particularly after 18 years of marriage. I am pretty sure he has also aged and changed, but your love for him has not changed...but he should love you "through sickness and death". I would stop focusing on pleasing him and focus on you instead, do things that make you happy. See friends, not sure hownold your kids are but do things with them. Get a make over, find new hobbies..built a life outside of this marriage. When you start focusing on yourself you will exude confidence and radiance. Your husband may also start noticing a new you and become attracted again.
Screw your hubby. Guys clearly a prick. Pamper yourself up...go out. Get drunk and get laid. Enjoy yourself. People are always gonna let you down..its what we do.., look out for yourself.
Your looks/body has nothing to do with the reason why he married you or the reason you married him, I believe if he’s blinded by the fact that looks matter than his own family or children then he simply cares about himself. His horrible choice of words has put damage on the way you look at yourself which has made you feel like the problem but you aren’t. If he thinks of him self let him! He will see later on that he is alone and sad because he didn’t love his family enough to stay.
