Breakup and upcoming divorce
Hello everyone, I’m not quite sure how this works (I’m a bit on the older spectrum and am starting to struggle with technology).
I writing this because I’ve come home one evening and my wife of 10 years had disappeared with our children. We’ve been in contact since and are now somewhat civil going through our breakup and upcoming divorce with all the ups and downs of such a situation.
I guess I’m hoping for people in similar situations to reach out so that we may support one another even if it’s just by sharing. My biggest hope would be for someone or some who’ve lived through this kind of situation and is/are now ok and settled and back to a somewhat happy side of life who might be able to give advice on how they got there.
So yeah if you are out there and know about the hardship, loneliness and fear of the future not to mention the hole your children leave in one’s heart then please reach out.
Your message came through perfectly, but there are a lot of messages and often they don't get replies. Have you worked out how to have chats with listeners?
That must have been a huge shock for you. I am glad things are civil at least but that probably doesn't make it any easier for you. I can understand the loss leaving a big hole in your heart. 💛
@bubbleLand25
I hope you are doing ok. I'm sorry that your wife left like that. I hope you and your wife can get back together. I haven't been through the same thing but I have seen it happen. I hope you and your wife can communicate and work things out. I don't know why some people leave and take the children with them. I know if there is physical violence or any type of abuse it makes it more difficult to repair and rebuild relationships.
Do you know why your wife left and took the children with her?
Bubble I can relate on both sides. I’ve left before… but now I find myself on the recieving end of being left by my spouse. It hurts and sucks. I am hopeful my spouse will consider going to some form of counseling with me… but I don’t know… I’m just feeling a lot of things right now and he won’t talk with me which is frustrating since he’s my best friend.
@bubbleLand25
I am also going through the same. it is him who run away. I don't know his where about. It hurts but will soon clear out.
Same as happened to me, although we weren't married, only she did it with protection orders, and has gotten me arrested, thrown out of my apartment, and made me homeless. I have two small children with her and I'm barely seeing them and living in a camper with no friends or family near me in rural Maine! I am right now facing jail time at a future court date just for texting her and I'm scared shitless of jail time as I am living paycheck to paycheck already with credit card payments, a camper payment and a truck note. I am seeing my boys a little, but really have nowhere to bring them other than to a tiny camper where they are miserable. But...I did not see them for eight weeks when this first happened so I know that pain and I'm sorry you are not seeing your kids. It is tougher than anything I've ever dealt with. I am 46 years old and the only thing I have of my possessions are my clothes, my truck and my tools she took everything else and I have no idea how to start over again. I wish I had a happy ending for you, but unfortunately, I am right in the middle of the darkest days of my life.
I'm so so sorry! I was having an affair with a married man and his wife found out about me and is now taking his kids. I did not know he was still with his wife, he had told me he had be separated for years. But I feel so guilty. So so guilty. I'm very very sorry for what you're going through
@BubbleLand25
Hello bubble
Back when I was 14 my mom decided to leave my dad . I’m now 35. I have three brothers. She took off to her parents house because my dad was an alcoholic and abusive. We as children seen a lot of the abuse. It wasn’t healthy.
My dad never stopped drinking and got cirrhosis and passed away 2 yrs ago at the age of 53. He never moved on. Never had another job. He was lucky enough to have a friend that allowed him to stay there and my dad build himself a room. He did have side jobs as far mechanic and construction. But at his own time.
As I got older , I didn’t really visited him only on holidays and when I needed my car fixed. After he passed I got in a car accident and loss my car too. I miss him so much. Although he did the things he did with my mom, I learned to understand that their issues were not ours.
please , if you’re reading this . Make the effort to change something in yourself and stay focus . Come to an understanding. Children suffer from all this.
i wish I would have known what my dad was going thru during his separation and thru out the rest of his living years. I never asked him , he seemed tough all the time. He asked me to make his medical decisions when he was dying. I never shed a tear when all this was happening and never told him how much he meant to me. Before he landed in the hospital he asked me when I was going to get married. I had been married and divorced due to cheating and differences in a previous relationship with a son. I was dating but had been single all this time. I never realized all he wanted was for me not to stay alone, just as he did.
I could never believe that I will be cheated on until it happens It was my worst nightmare. However, I resisted. For my son and my daughter. I listened, I stuck together. I have read positive articles and posts like this. Learning to move forward and yet stay to see if there is a change. Because family is worth fighting for, no matter how unworthy it may seem at times. thanks to the priest jaja who helps reconcile our marriage and love relationship.. in case you are in a similar situation { Be the light in the darkness. { It's the only option in this universe. desperate for my husband who broke up with me.