I feel like I’m being harassed online by this guy.
Hello, as some of you may know, the guy that I was getting to know, I ended friendship with him because he was being disrespectful to me in only a week/ half a month of getting to know me. Asked for ***, was acting controlling over me, called me a b*tch, talked about my mental breakdowns and stuff like that. Basically he showed his true colors to me even before getting to know him more so that was a good thing because then I knew when to stop talking to him. Kept begging me for pictures and just inappropriate stuff that I don’t do. Got mad if I said no about sending inappropriate pictures, which isn’t a problem because he needs to get over it. My answer was always no because it’s just rude to ask someone for stuff like that.
I ended friendship with him around October 1st. I was not about to deal with someone who basically doesn’t care about me or want to get to know me and just asked for inappropriate things. Then on top of that, called me a b*tch and talked about my mental breakdowns and didn’t even apologize still.
The reason I feel like I’m being harassed by him through text is because, a few days ago, he had texted me asking did I want to watch a movie with him. It was very weird because I had told him that we could no longer be friends because he was just wasting my time. I replied to his message and asked him was he going to apologize for the stuff he said, and he replied “ how can he apologize for something he doesn’t remember what he said “. So I then sent him the message what he needed to apologize for. He didn’t apologize. So then I said “ ok bye bye again since no apology “
A few days later he texts me again. He texted “ hmm” at first I was gonna respond but I deleted my message because it would just be a waste of time.
Then fast forward to today, a few minutes ago I check my phone and see messages from him again. I don’t wanna be mean but I wanna ask him why does he keep texting me. Does he feel bad about the stuff he said or what?
If I were in this situation, I would go "no contact." I would not read, acknowledge, or reply to their messages. Anyway, I am sorry that you had to go through this. Hopefully, soon he will just leave you alone.
@L1ly0ftheValley Hi, thank you so much for commenting. And I hope so too, because when I wanted to get to know him, he was asking me for n*des constantly. And disrespected me. He said that he wanted to “make up” by watching a movie the day he had asked. I don’t know if he was thinking that I would magically say “oh okay sure” and forgive him randomly after all the hurtful stuff he said to me and hasn’t even apologized but keeps texting me. Like I said, I don’t know if he feels bad for what he did or what. But every time he texts me it isn’t an apology. Idk why it’s so hard for him to just apologize.
@strwberryhearts - You're welcome. :)
I wish he would apologize since that's what you want from him, but the truth is that he may never apologize because he sounds like someone who thinks it's okay to objectify women. I would personally block him and move on. I would not wait around for an apology, because I wouldn't want someone like that in my life at all; life is too short for that sort of drama.
@L1ly0ftheValley Yeah that is true. He keeps texting me like it’s some game or like I’m gonna magically forgive him for wasting my time and all the other stuff.
@strwberryhearts
I think the best option would be to cut him off all together. If someone asks for innapropriate images without consent, no means no. This person seems very dangerous. Block him and do not forgive him. You did not deserve that kind of treatment. I know it might be hard, but once you get rid of them you will feel so much better. Do not let others mistreat you, you deserve love and care along with validation. He had no right to say horrible things about your mental issues.
@navyThinker8211 Thank you so much! I appreciate the kind words 🤧🤍 And yes I cut him off in October around like the 1st. He’s still been texting me though recently and earlier today. I was thinking of blocking him when he had texted me a few days ago but I didn’t because I thought that he would stop texting me. When I wanted to talk to him and stuff, he didn’t have interest, now he’s trying to get me to talk to him again so badly.
Yeah just block and move on
It may be tempting to be flattered by his continuous messaging, but remember how this guy treated you right away. I'd stay away from him if I were you. He sounds like a creep.
I met a guy who treated me like crap when I was younger. I ignored the early red flags and ended up marrying him. If I could go back in time, I would've dumped him and waited for someone better instead of settling.
@SweetPea321 And I’m sorry to hear that. That sounds awful. I’d say wait and get to know the person first before jumping into marriage especially if you just met them. That’s a big red flag. Don’t settle for anybody who treats you like crap. I’ve been learning that too as well. I hope you are doing okay.
@SweetPea321 Yes that is true, thank you for the reminder :)
