Loosing Hope / Motivation
I’m tired, so tired…
I lost my soulmate.. she doesn’t want to be with me anymore. I don’t know if she ever will.. I used to have hope because things between us are getting a little better. Yet she’s still so distant and inconsistent… I know she’s extremely busy now… but she doesn’t make time for me as she would others.. I lose hope the longer we are apart..
we started a business together that I now run alone.. I started another one myself.. now I am running two businesses that are facing so many problems.. I’ve stopped making sales and I have not made profits..
i also started investing with her this year.. now I manage everything alone and I’ve lost so much of my savings. I know I should not sell the investments.. but it’s so disheartening seeing everything I’ve saved to be down 20% and everyone believing it’ll fall 50% more.
it’s like everything I do just fails. I try hard, I put so much effort.. I tried so hard for her. I put in everything I can for my future. Yet everything falls apart.. I’m so lost right now. I don’t have anyone to feel comfortable with anymore. I want her back so much.
Hi FancyClown
It sounds like you are going through a lot. I’m sorry you have been experiencing difficulties, you must keep trying to move forward. Focus on getting yourself to a better place and maybe that will help with the relationship aspect also. Try working through the things you can control at the moment and find yourself again. Wishing you the best with everything and hope things start working out better for you soon. 🙏
That sounds so overwhelming, I hope you can find some way to simplify. Maybe both businesses are not necessary? It's good to work for your future but if it affects your mental health and makes you spiral it's only gonna hurt you. You gotta bite off what you can chew, brother.
The pain of losing her will get better. But you gotta take it one day at a time. I am in the same boat as you in that regard and it hurts like hell. You are not alone.
Hey Fancy, very sorry to hear what you’re dealing with right now. I know the pain of losing someone you feel is your “soulmate”. What I can say to that, which may not immediately resonate with you, is that even if your feelings about this connection are strong, don’t let it draw you into believing it’s necessarily the only “one”, that nothing else will feel good or that other possibilities can’t exist. It takes some of the pressure off. Also, that’s almost certainly an illusion. Which doesn’t mean you can’t try to make it work with her but just - maintain healthy perspective always.
I wasted years of my life in overwhelming sadness about a problematic soulmate connection, and now I realize that was the real mistake. You don’t have to do that. Just give some time to process and don’t try to control it too much. The feelings of trying to control an outcome too intently are basically frustration and despair, so it’s always worth attempting to soften that knee-jerk reaction.
I hope you find some help in what I’ve expressed, for that dimension of what you’re going through.
Those soulmate relationships really break you for a long time. It's sad because it's so beautiful when it's good. But life is hard already, to stir in that kind of emotional turmoil makes it torture. I've been through it a couple of times now and I'm not sure it's worth it in the end.
If you are true “soulmates” and you believe in that, then the idea is you’ll probably get back together. This also takes the pressure off. I think a lot of the so-called torture can be in the attempt to control everything, and to not see other possibilities. The broad outline here, which is very difficult to see in the beginning, but perhaps not impossible, is that this may not be an end of everything beautiful but a new beginning, no matter what happens. And it’s okay not to see that right away.
And suffering long-term is not worth it, trust me. We can learn from others’ mistakes~
Aww, I'm sorry you lost your love 😔 Hang in there. I know it hurts now, but it will get better. Your true love is out there somewhere. I hope that you'll meet someday ❤