Needing advice
Hi all. I’m new here but seeking some advice and thoughts on my situation from a neutral party. In July I reconnected with a long time crush after his wife abandoned him in social media. I was going through some marital problems of my own and lines were crossed. My teenage son caught us talking and by the end of August I was headed back to my hometown and living with my old crush, admiringly the only person that I ever liked enough to entertain leaving my marriage
But now it appears there’s a lot of intimacy issues. Is it normal to be for months into a relationship and someone refuse to kiss you? He says it’s just him, but I am really wondering.
@trutyson yeah that's a big red flag. I married a woman who stopped kissing me about a year into the marriage. It was over 3 years later and was very destructive. We've been apart almost 15 years and share a child and I still have very hard feelings towards her. The relationship was a very degrading experience and I felt very manipulated and used. She could never give me a straight answer why but her behavior ultimately was all I needed to know about how she really felt. I'm sorry you are in this situation.
Does not sound “normal”, but the situation isn’t optimal. Sounds like there is a lot of hurt and trauma he may need to work through. Try not to take anything personally since you guys are close but he may not be ready for another relationship, can he or both of you get into therapy?
