Pretend to dislike marriage
I have boyfriend yet he doesn’t like of idea of marriage and anytime I know that my friends, my younger relatives have married or will get married soon makes me a lil bit envy (of course I feel happy for them) just I dont know I feel lil bit sad of myself.. and anytime when my relatives, friends asking me when Im going to get married stress me out.. Why? Because I want to get married, my boyfriend doesn’t like marriage yet I don’t have the guts to tell my fam that it is not me who doesn’t want marriage but my boyfriend doesn’t want.. I feel if I tell my fam or friends, I feel so low and shy as a woman that even my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me.. So nowadays I pretend to dislike marriage to just say that I dont have the idea of marriage and just keep every feeling to myself... Sorry for writing it here since I dont know who I can share so I hope by writing here makes me feel better...
@Ramyeon , It is good you decided to pen down your thoughts and emotions instead of keeping them locked in. Unloading certainly helps. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married ,.... the ceremony is grand, there is laughter and family get together plus you get to spend and share your life with a companion. It is indeed a pity your boyfriend is not comfortable with it. Maybe you could talk to him and share how you are feeling right now. It is understandable how the idea of marriage could sound suffocating or being tied down for life. Everyone has their understanding and their perspective . But in some situations ,as a couple get to know each other for a couple of years , They change their opinions as they explore common ground , comfort with each other and so on. It might be a good idea to check with your boyfriend whether he still dislike marriage or plan to marry you later or even tell him how you really feel right now.
Thanks for listening n the advice.. really appreciate it.. I think I have to wait a right moment and ask him again about the idea of marriage as you said...
I have a boyfriend pretending he wants to marry me soon. And when the time come he delay it and make some reasons. So whenever he say SOON it means no way!
Im in your situation too the difference is my boyfriend always pretend he likes it just because we talked about marriage. But in reality he doesn’t make plan. (And I just found out everytime he has a girl he makes a plan just like ours). He always says SOON, but when the time comes as if nothing is on plan. Now it felt soon means JUST TO PLEASE YOU BUT IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN. So everytime my family and friends asked me I just pretend Im the one who has the problem.