What do you think?
Im bisexual and have been in a relationship for 3 years with a male. Today he brought home food that a female work colleague made for him. I said how would you feel if i brought home food from another man. He then throws in my face that im bisexual so, technically i cant say that to him because, if a female colleague made me food it would be just the same and i wouldn't question him about a male. He always brings up my sexuality in situations like this, like it's a weapon to shut me down. As he knows what hes saying is logical. But it makes me feel sad, that because im bisexual i can't say things without it being thrown in my face. Also, it makes me feel like im trapped because if we was to go down that route i would be completely isolated from everyone male and female. No friendly gestures being viewed as safe, because I could potentially be attracted to either sex. Non of this prob makes sence .. but it really really hurts when my sexuality is brought up to prove a point or shut me down. I tried to say his comments were unnecessary, because the focus was on him at the moment and not about me. But i guess i should of never of said.. hoe would you feel if another man made me food. But i wad just trying to say.. how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot.
That’s rude of him to throw it in ur face. Hugs.
Thank you! I feel gaslit. Hes convinced himself its okay. Xx
I don't understand why you asked that question in the first place. I think you should concentrate on yourself. Have you been jealeous? Do you have general trust issues with him?
I understand you were trying to let him know why u were upset. If he disagreed he should’ve just said it. Nothing with ur sexuality.
tell him that your sexuality shouldn't be thrown in your face. that you are not out to have relationships with anyone else but him. let him know that it bothers you when he throws being bisexual in your face. if he cares for you, he will stop...you guys may need some couples counseling to work through this...your sexuality is no one's business...if you are with him, you are with him and he should be satisfied. if you guys break up, who you decide to be with after that is not his business either. as for right now, let him know you are committed to him and he does not need to use sexuality as a weapon