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User Profile: diplomaticTown5765
diplomaticTown5765 September 7th, 2021

Hi, I'm miserable and see no positive end in sight. I'm almost 40, have been alone my entire life. Every online dating site has shadow banned me because I'm too ugly, people actually report you if they don't want to talk to you just for saying hi. They've deleted all my pictures of my face because people report them. I finally deleted all my profiles last night. I've completely given up. All I've ever wanted was to be loved and have a family and that will never happen. The only thing I've been holding onto is my job, and I've been notified that I'm being laid off the end of the year. I don't have plans to do anything after that, I don't have any reason to. I don't even have anyone I can talk to and I have to use a service for you to pretend to care about me. That's how sad my existence is. I don't have family, the mother and brother both died by the time I was 20 and I was never close with anyone else. I've done everything alone, never anyone to comfort me, never a holiday filled with love, alone I deal with every hardship in silence. For what, nothing.


Edited by Asher, removal of triggering content, 9/20/21

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User Profile: Meandros
Meandros September 20th, 2021

@diplomaticTown5765

Hello, Im sorry that you are that lonely. The world may be a very hard place despite being full of people. Meaningful connections are hard to do, and almost imposible for people who are different. Some are ugly, others have the wrong skin colour, others had their brains wired differently. Even those who are super hadsome have big problems, and feel lonely because they are seen as objets. You are not alone about feeling lonely.

I hope you will be able to find your own path and some happiness and sense in your life. Hugs.

User Profile: zdog
zdog September 23rd, 2021

Hey I'm sorry you're going through this. People are pretty crappy and that's why I just stick to myself.

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User Profile: GoldenNest2727
GoldenNest2727 October 18th, 2021

@zdog

I'm sorry that you've experienced crappy people. I'll never understand why some people have to act that way. Some folks can be a real downer for sure. Keep searching for people who will lift you up. They're out there.

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User Profile: azureStrings1729
azureStrings1729 October 7th, 2021

Im sorry to hear that but im here to extend my hand of friendship and sympathy . Dont worry everything will be fine one day. I can hear your heart out until you heal.as a humanitarian duty and my duty towards God.

User Profile: 420harleychick
420harleychick October 8th, 2021

There is positive in everything…. Sometimes you just have to look a little harder to see it. Change your Perception change your life…. I hope you have a blessed day

User Profile: GoldenNest2727
GoldenNest2727 October 18th, 2021

It sounds like focusing on something else would do you some good. Forget about dating for now. Focus on something you can control. Is there a new hobby you'd like to master? A group you've thought about joining? Maybe getting around other people will help lift your mood.


User Profile: Lasweetbaby34
Lasweetbaby34 October 19th, 2021

@diplomaticTown5765,

i’m so sorry to hear this, and that you are going through all of this. This is the reason why I stop visiting this online websites because people their are just so cruel and don’t even have a heart. I mean in my opinion if you are going to be in a website is because you want to meet people right. If you don’t want people to say hi to you, why be in that website I don’t get it. honestly now a days people are just awful and do anything to hurt others, please don’t put yourself down because others try to do so. Everyone is beautiful and unique in their own way, not everyone is perfect and people who do this type of things must be going through a hard time and are miserable.

I’m glad you found 7 cups because since I been here I been feeling a lot better. They are kind and sweet they are here for you and never judge you. try to find people that will learn to accept you just the way you are. if a person doesn’t like you or report anything of you. It’s their lost for not trying to meet an incredible good person and that is you. I’m sorry about all this and I hope that one day you can find peace and comfort and also people that love you just the way you are. God bless you ❤️💗

User Profile: BellaTora
BellaTora November 16th, 2021

You are the holder of your worth handsome! Sounds like you need to work on your self worth, believe in yourself baby, someone has too. Stay off the dating sites, they like beauty magazines only make you feel fat ;) you have got this

You are more than your face, beauty is the eye of the beholder, work on being kind, join a book club, watch free YouTube self love videos. Sign up to an amazing guy retreat, Tony Robbins, Mathew Hussey or whoever and get the tools to start being unapologetically, authentically yourself x

User Profile: Jackfruitislife
Jackfruitislife November 16th, 2021

Town, I just wanted to reach out and send you a virtual hug. Things sound tough but keep fighting for yourself and you never know where life may take you.

If it helps, I never ever got any luck on dating apps either. Barely ever a match even though I thought I was doing everything right! I'm now in a happy relationship so it is possible to do it without the apps.

I hope you find joy and happiness - whatever that means for you. Whether its a walk in the park, a good book with a cup of tea or video games.

User Profile: amusingApricot166
amusingApricot166 November 16th, 2021

@diplomaticTown5765

Hello,

I also struggle to have the people in my life that I want there. The thing is, I have people in my life, but many(including myself) are negative. I'm mostly negative because I'm around those people. But I have some positive company when I go to play some table tennis, smile at someone passing while jogging, or even taking a picture for them. I'm indoors a lot as well, and it doesn't really help to stay indoors too scared to go out and get hurt.

I had a week alone now and I felt much better. The first day my spouse returned she shouted at our baby (3 months) old and she threw her helmet on the floor breaking the viser. Well, I'm not perfect myself, but I try to stay positive and it helps. I do some stretches and some productive work on the laptop, etc. But the best to do is to go out and just do something. Yes, many times it feels like a waste, but there are still people out there that are friendly and even if they're not, I get to do something I like and I forget about my bigger problems for a while. Good luck and I hope and believe that you will come out on top.


Just having someone by your side can make you a lot unhappier. Trust me. I just don't give up one someone easily, but it's immensely difficult to stay positive myself.