New here
Hi everyone! I am a 47 year old mother of a 16 year old son and stepmom to a 24 year old daughter. I have been married to my second husband for almost 12 years. The older I get, the more difficulty I have dealing with anxiety and stress. I was considering going to a psychiatrist/psychologist but I wanted to see how I felt sharing here first. I’m still trying to figure out navigating the app but hope to connect with some people and gain some insight. Thanks!
Welcome to the community.
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I'm new, too, and just wanted to pipe up in the name of solidarity :) I've been dancing around the counselor/therapist/psychiatrist commitment, too. I think that good friends help with alot of issues, but I find it difficult to have close friendships at this age. (How do people have the time and energy it takes to prioritize friendships at this stage in life?!)
Anyway, best to you!
Thanks for sharing this. I’ve always had one or two close friends to talk to but lately I feel like I’ve drifted apart from them. Everyone is so caught up in their own lives/problems that I don’t want to burden them. I don’t fault them for being distant right now. It’s partly my fault as I’ve pulled away. I’ve been having some problems in my marriage and my husband is not open to any kind of therapy. So I’m hoping I can get a feel for sharing and go from there.
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Some marital stuff here, too. My husband is a good guy in a lot of respects, but he doesn't have faith in counselors, or he doesn't want to be judged, or for his problems to be aired, or to have to listen to me criticize him in front of someone else, or something. To be honest, I've only got one friend who has told me she benefited from counseling, and she once told me a person should expect a lot of failure in seeking counseling;he/she will probably have to do a lot of hunting to find the right fit in a counselor, and will definitely have to work hard.... My friend made the hunt for a therapist/counselor sound like the hunt for a life partner. Considering that therapy is quite expensive, I have found myself not wanting to pay for all that initial failure. Maybe my husband feels kind of like this, too.
Interesting thread. Alot id like to say, not sure where to begin. Friendship. I've always tended to isolate myself when it comes to friends, which leads to my feeling very alone at times. But... im married. Been married 21 years and counting. 4 kids. All at home. Live with in-laws. Have 2 sisters. So, although I tend to feel very alone at times, i am clearly not. Therapy. Not a big believer in therapy. Had a therapist. Quite possibly the least skilled therapist in Florida. I'm a former alcoholic. He suggested non alcoholic beer. Was interested in... Adventurous sex. He suggested a website that features what he called " porn for women". No joke. Wife was told she shouldn't find a therapist and should do her duties as a wife. Needless to say, I no longer have a therapist. Diagnosed bipolar. On alot of meds and seeing a psychiatrist. Marriage is mostly ok. No sex life at all. But, that's a topic for another day
Hello and welcome. I understand feeling alone. I’m an introvert. I tend to have a couple close friends and I prefer to spend time with them one on one. A group bigger than 4 people including myself can be overwhelming for me. I was able to spend a few hours yesterday hanging out with my best friend just talking and it was wonderful. We hadn’t done that in a very long time. I felt so much better afterwards. But I get what you mean about feeling lonely even while surrounded by family. Sometimes I feel like my husband and I are on two completely different wavelengths as far as feelings and communication. We’re trying and hope to pull through this even stronger. My mom and dad have been married for 48 years and my mom always told me communication is the key. I’m sorry you’re having a tough time. I read your other posts as well. I wish I had a good answer for you. All I can say is to try to get your feelings out whether it’s to your wife, family member, friend, psychiatrist or in the chats here. I always feel better when I’m able to talk to someone. Best of luck!
