50's Plus Check in October 1-7 2018
What are ways to show that you aren't hiding your weakness? What are things that can help you/others?
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Puh! Its hard to explain this.
Yeah i guess it took me quite long time to face myself, understand me, my points of weakness, ask for help! And eventually be honest to myself about how i feel for a certain situation! Give the wound its time to heal...denial will do no good. Also pushing away certain feelings may not work.
So, sometimes its like that:
1- decide if therapy is needed and seek help.
2- self help guides.. read a lot. Watch videos. Exercise audios.. maybe even apps in the topic. Learn how to help yourself and how to appreciate the help given and actually use it.
3- CBT. Positive thinking. Self care. Notice if you have false fixed beleifs. Also admit to yourself at least when wrong. Dont judge yourself tho. Take it easy. Change! Be compassionate also with yourself if hurt.. give yourself time. You are growing stronger..
Love is true...there is always someone who cares about you. Even if it's only me. We are humans 😊
@mindtalk123
I agree being in denial and pushing those feelings and thoughts does not help at all. Being in acceptance that we need help and reaching out and getting that help is very important. Deciding on what type of help, learning about the things and how much each person is different: Deciding if therapy or self help guides is really good. I agree that individuals need to appreciate the help and use the information to help themself. It is like no one can do it for them they have to do it themself however, others can give ideas thou.
Reading, watching videos, exercise audios, searching for different apps on topics are really good coping skills that individuals can use to help themself.
I am so glad that you mentioned CBT. positive thinking, self care, noticing if you have false fixed beleifs are all important to Turning the mind. Admiting to yourself when things are wrong is very important. Part of DBT also teaches not to judge yourself or others. Taking it easy when you change because some things are going to take longer to change then other things. Being compassionate with oneself if hurt or having/had a truma also does take time and try to not be hard on yourself if it is a slow process.
I agree all of this will help you grow stronger which is a good thing. Love is true - we may not think this all of the time and that is where Turning the mind comes in action but there are people who care about you. It might be at first just yourself while the thoughts are hard but you will then learn that others do also care about you.
@DanaMH
Thanks for referring the Links of Turning your mind & DBT. The articles are interesting and provide with new information.
I appreciate that!
@mindtalk123
You are so welcome.
@DanaMH
Asking for help. But, how I struggle with this. I;'m afraid to ask because I don;t want to admit how horribly I've screwed up. I'm afraid I will be seen as the charlatan I know myself to be. Or, rather, confirm my fearful suspicion that I am a charlatan.
@WorthyStruggle
So sorry that you think that others are thinking that. If we are talking about doctors sometimes we have to change our doctors or communicate to them that we feel that we aren't being heard.
Self Help Tips: being aware when i am having hurtful responses to stress, even if i can't stop at the moment. offering apologies and explanations where needed. practicing different skills when not stressed so they are more habitual when needed.
not all butterflys are yellow~! 
@GustyOne4U
I agree self-help tips are very important and we need to learn what self-help tips help us and make a list of them so we can have those "go to" items to help when needed.
Remembering to Praise my 'Inner Child', who is craving Approval~! 
@GustyOne4U
Praising your 'Inner Child' is very important.
Good Morning all!!!
Hope everyone has a great blessed day!!
I am working on my self worth!! Forgivenes and not letting others affect me and become more affective!!
I am someone who Loves people and does my best , but I do fail at times.
God made me Unique and thats okay because we all are.!
Positive Self Talk !! Huge for me and knowing Better days are ahead even during the darkest hours!!
I am Thankful and Grateful and Blessed , all things I need to remember!!
Peace and Love everyone ,
TDB :)
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
That is great to hear that you are working on your self-worth. Forgiveness is hard for some folks also with some topics that is a big one to tackle so glad you are up for that challenge. Becoming more affective is great. I think we all try to do our best and all we can ask from anyone is to do their best in relationships. Some folks work harder and it is one sided sometimes but good relationships come around and then become two sided. I agree that everyone is unique and that is why we all can help each other and dream up ideas that might help each other.
@DanaMH totally agree ! Ty
Being depression and anxiety are not good things together.cause I am about him.and wish my feeling would go away .I hope and pray that my depression and anxiety would go away. I had been keeping my feeling to myself.I tried of keeping them a secret.
Hi Teri,
I was like you I kept so many emotions hid for many years because I had so much to deal due to my family so I finally had to say how i felt and how I was being affected by them and what happened in my life as a child and up into my adulthood , now did it really do any good with them No not at all because they continued doing the same thing they always done, But for me it was such a relief to get out all my emotions and to this day I can still tell people how i feel and to them it doesnt matter because people are so wrapped in being sellfish so I really kicked in my self worth and learned I will not allow anyone to run over me anymore...I just learned to say I am so sorry I can not do that or no I will no do that ..
Be your own advocate okay and stand your ground and let out the emotions and know that YOU do matter , You can get better .. there are so many great coping skills and also great people here to chat with !!!
I still struggle but I am better at dealing with my emotions and will always be a work in progress but I do know one thing we are awesome people who deal with depression , anxiety and more ,, RIGHT! :) we would have to be the strongest to make it everyday with what we deal with.
I am always around okay you need to chat come chat with me!!
Peace,
TDB :)
@Teri13
So sorry to hear that you don't have anyone to talk to and holding things in are very hard. If you ever need to chat we can.
the day is bright and promising. it's looking like a lovely weekend~!
