Weekend Check-In April 5-7, 2019
Hello beautiful 50+ Community 
, how is everyone doing today?
Let's reflect on the year so far. What went well so far in this year and what is not going so well?
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@amiablePeace77
Hi peace, beautiful picture❤
This year was okay for me till now. Hope I do better in classes and concentrate more !
How was it for you?
Hi Unknown and thanks for checking in. Glad to hear that the year was okay for you so far and wish you all the best for your classes.
This year gave me some new windows to look through. I am thankful for what I learned so far and keep on trying to improve focus too
Well, everything has gone well with the children finishing school this May. But, now Im having to learn how to be a husband all over again. We have been children centered for so long that now I got to relearn my wife after 27 years.
@Favor2020
I know that feeling also. My son graduates in June and it will then only be my husband and me and that is a big change since the last 30 years we have always had a child in the house.
@Favor2020
Favor, when we focus on someone or somethig so much, like children we do not realize the changes happening around us, even not at times how our partner changed. Fact is you want to relearn your wife and that's a great starting point. I wish you both the best.
@amiablePeace77
My wife and i are also struggling with this, and she is having a crisis of confidence in our marriage. She wants a temporary separation. I am broken and my anxiety is through the roof. This morning, I collapsed at work and could barely walk or stand afterwards. Still shaking as I recall the experience 12 hours later.
Children leaving home is very difficult - we are required to parent differently and have to re-learn how to be partners
@Foxxbirdsong
I can't express how sorry I am for you. (((HUGS))) . Hope it's a little better now? Marriage problems can be incredibly hard to deal with. I can only imagine how exhausted you must be. Do you have any support outside your marriage in your physical environment? Glad to hear in your last post that you are doing self-care 💚
What did I do wrong? My whole life is about not doing anything right. I participated in discussions and chats.
@Lauren63 , Take deep breath and slow down , your breath , your thought , activities you are doing. Slowing down helps to calm your mind. Even if things are not gooing well , just carry on with your daily routine. It is a good way to keep your mind focus and not get bogged down. Hope things get better for you soon.
@Lauren63
Hi Lauren, I was happy to see you last week in discussion and hope very much to see you again this week.
When young I got a lot of criticism at home and started to self-criticise a lot too ,the end was that I believed everything I do is wrong but it is and was not. Try asking yourself what's the evidence I did something wrong? Nobody is perfect, what I do is good enough for me or like someone here in 7cups said (what I find is very smart) "What did I do right today"?
Lauren, when we feel down we need our own love and compassion to heal. I hope you can show some of your love to yourself. 💚
This year so far....
On the positive side, my work is going well. Lot's of progress there. My immediate relationships are good, which I'm grateful for. New opportunities on the horizon so that's good too.
On the negative side, relationships. I see close friends hurting - hurting mentally, hurting each other, hurting people they don't really know. My challenge is to support but not get caught up.
@MissPen
Pen, seeing friends hurting each other is terrible, they might even want you to take sides, hope that's not the case though. You are right trying to make sure not getting caught up, helping is okay but taking on the negative not.
@amiablePeace77 Thanks Ami - I'm trying to stay neutral in these things, be suportive of them (within boundries). Most importantly practice good self care by taking breaks and doing things for me.
@MissPen
Pen, I think you got it set up right for you, take time for yourself
Hi - first time here. Having the worst year ever so far with relationship stress.
But to relax, I enjoy forestbathing a keep a blog of my walks in a local wood near my home.
Others might find it helpful or interesting to read. I get a lot of my support therapy rom birds and trees
https://wordpress.com/post/hutwooddiaryblog.wordpress.com
@Foxxbirdsong Forest bathing sounds amazing. I need to learn more.
