Age Gap Love
Hi im 26 yrs old and my love she is 55 yrs old but widowed... We both love each other... I want to persue my love to her but Im also concernes about her families well being... Can you help me...
@CarlotriS3 If you truly love this woman, then go for her...but know that you'll probably end up burying her. With an age difference like that, you will almost certainly outlive her.
@slowdecline48
I know a woman who is 104 with all of her own teeth in her mouth, lives alone though help comes during the day. I also have a cousin who is 95 years old with all her teeth in her mouth, lives alone. Both women are mobile with all of their awareness. My cousin has no history of illness, and doesn't take medication, she gave me some pointers for longevity as well. You maybe surprised that both these women outlived their husbands.
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@PetiteSouris No, I'm not surprised at all. Women commonly outlive men of similar age by four to seven years on average. Either way, one usually winds up burying the other.
Also, the stories are impressive!...but one reason why is the longevity of those two. Not every woman makes it to 104 years of age, let alone most men.
@slowdecline48
I said all of that to say we don't know anyones fate.
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What does longevity have to do with "faith"?
To put it more straightforwardly, we can rephrase it as "what has biology to do with [insert name of deity here]?"
@slowdecline48
I guess the word in the last sentence was meant to be "fate", not "faith" 😉
I agree that seems like a universal issue, not told to any newly married to not discourage them (and not so much dependent on the age gap or no age gap): lovers usually die alone. Except some very special circumstances like a plane crash, earthquake or war. The "gift" for the one who lives longer is their longer days on earth, but the heavy price for that is seeing our loved one dead, buried, and the world without her or him.
I've had a friend who died at 95, outliving his beloved spouse just a year or two. But every day he was missing her and wanted to join her. I remember him looking at the photo of his wife, smiling and saying like "And, hey, you! You shouldn't laugh at this right now". A definition of love beyond the grave for me...
@CarlotriS3
First, I would like to disagree on the "who's burying who" dilemma. I think that nowadays there are so many factors influencing our lifetime length, so it is really hard to "predict".
Also, I wouldn't like to ask how old are you, or how large the age gap is, but: how old your relationship is? I believe at the begining of every serious connection we can be overwhelmed by dopamine/adrenaline/oxytocin cocktail in our brains, then we feel we can move a mountain. But it is several months later that gives us the "reality check".
Certainly, you are far off the beaten track, so you may see untypical challenges. I think the age is not only a combination of digits, but also a thing connected with e.g. hormone levels (including being able, or not, to become parents - I guess your partner is well aware of that), overall energy or tiredness, and life experience.
The needs at various life stages can differ a lot, too (from urge to discover and challenge the world to prefer peaceful and quiet at home). But again, there is no rule for that, because you can meet a 50-year-old woman who is much more lively than a 30 years old one, or a 20-year-old man who is more mentally mature than his 40 years old counterpart.
One of the best therapists I have ever met used to say that "in a relationship everything is allowed, as long as it doesn't make and harm to someone".
I hope you can give yourself some time, to avoid any hastily or potentially harmful choices, and find the path which is right for you.
@CarlotriS3 Hello, mate.
You can see on my homepage that I too am in some emotional difficulties, so I can understand you.
Many people will tell you that these obstacles exist due to the influence of reality, which of course is not what you want to hear.
What I want to say is, don't underestimate the power of love – on the one hand, if you really love each other and both have the idea of being willing to sacrifice for each other, then many things can be resolved; on the other hand, if you give up easily, the pain of the broken relationship will overwhelm you, and afterwards you will regret your choice of being carried away by temporary emotions, and this damage is often irreversible.
No matter what difficulties you are currently experiencing, I can feel that for you, this relationship is the most important thing. Hold on to the one you love.
