Why is social media so addictive
Me and my wife are constantly arguing about phone usage during bed what should I do to make things better
@Gbjgr80
Many people have routines that involve their devices / phones set across the room from the bed so if you needed in case of emergency still in room just not convenient to look at if trouble sleeping etc. if it is available people will look at or if they have a notification noise they will pick up breaking the habit is harder for some then others but once it is broken most like it better.
I find it a way to re-enforce to myself that the world still revolves and goes on with out me trying to see things on a electronic device.
It really is addictive. I'm single so I don't have anyone around me to remind me to get off the phone. I'm afraid my daughter is going to spend all her time on the phone. We go camping and hang outside with our devices.
@Gbjgr80: I think you two should turn off your phones and focus on something else. There’s so many positive things you and your wife can focus on instead of arguing about phone usage. Plan a trip or vacation somewhere where you’ll have so much to do that you’ll be off your phones. Maybe somewhere you both have always wanted to go but have never gone to??? Or plan what you’ll have tomorrow for breakfast, lunch and dinner and if the timing works out for you to have 1, 2 or all 3 of those meals together. Or anything positive that either of you can think of.
Arguing won’t change anything. You both as well as everyone else who uses a phone has control over how much they use it. If anyone feels using it as much isn’t beneficial for them then it’s up to them to control themselves and be/stay committed to minimizing their usage of their phone or any other device for that matter.
@akunknown I agree with you but I am not on social media anymore. I find it distracting from time I could be spending with my wife going out or doing things. I only use my phone to listen to music while walking doing chores or while at work thru out the day. And the occasional I love you text. What I am saying is that she has to check every 5mins saying I need to see if I got a text from the kids and ends up on social media. If she wasn't able to talk to people she would not have met me.
@Gbjgr80: Sorry if I misunderstood you before but thanks for your comment I think it helps me understand what you were saying and your situation better :)
@akunknown it is all good we are here to support each other.
Perhaps find something that you're truly interested in, and when you do, you're not far from getting off the phone! Good luck!!!
@Gbjgr80
I decided many years ago to not participate anymore in any kind of social media because life gets hard enough at times and I have no use for all the drama
I’m sure I’m not missing much or maybe that makes me just odd
@sympatheticCat267:
The drama and all the other negativity that’s in social media makes me so happy I was never a part of it.
Whether your decision to not be a part of social media anymore makes odd or not is a matter of opinion. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks or what their opinion is of you. The fact is you’re just doing what’s best for you and there’s nothing odd at all about that. What works best is different for everyone as not everyone is same.
This site is the closest thing I’ve ever gotten to being on social media but since this site isn’t an official social media platform, it doesn’t exactly count as social media.
Because it's designed that way, for one... That's what the algorithms do. They feed you more of whatever content you click on while gleaning every bit of data they can get from your digital trail, word choice, etc. It's a myth that your phone is listening to you whenever you talk; that myth has been debunked many times. The point is, your phone doesn't need to listen to your voice when what you click & type--& where you go--tells far more about your personality than what you say.
Algo-driven AIs are coming to know us better than we know ourselves.
The obvious question is, what can you do about it? Not much, other than abstinence. Put your phone down for at least a few minutes every day & do something in the real world: take a walk, read a book (of paper, not on a screen), something without the Internet. Ask yourself how much "social media" you actually need. Keeping in touch with relatives is one thing, but...T!kT0k?? A good many people can live without it, I think.
The best cure for social media addiction might be boredom. I had an In$taspam account until almost two years ago...I had abstained from it for three- to five-day periods whenever I got tired of all the usual 🐂💩. My absences gradually increased in length; I found I felt better & got more done when I wasn't spending countless hours scrolling & commenting on posts I will never remember to people I will never know (or care about). Finally, one day I saw drama erupt on an account I'd been following for the umpteenth time & realized the few people I liked had all left, even if their accounts were still up. I looked at everything on my phone screen & thought why am I still here? After that, I made a farewell post on my account & shut it down about a week later. Never been back to 1nstaspam since.
