Need advice
Hi, I’m a disabled single mother. I recently just bought a home of my own and I raise my child. I have an older sister. My father and stepmother tend to favor her and her kids. Recently I found out they all went to the zoo for my nephews birthday and didn’t bother to invite me and my kid. I would have loved to go with them. I wonder maybe they didn’t invite me bc they think I just won’t feel good enough to go. I’ve been missing holidays lately bc I have a hard time driving. All holidays are at my sister and her husbands house 45 min away. I feel hurt that they didn’t even invite us. I also feel hurt for my child. Maybe I am over thinking or over reacting or am I just gaslighting myself thinking this? Is this wrong or is it just me who thinks that it’s wrong? They have invited me to holidays and shrug their shoulders when I tell them I can’t really drive long distance anymore. Sometimes I wish they would offer to pick me up or even have one holiday at my home. My sister also always bullied me my whole Life and everyone tells me all she ever does is talk bad about me. Idk why I get hurt over this. I need to find my own family somewhere with my friends. What are your thoughts?
@raspberryNest1872]
Your feelings are 100% valid, and your family's behavior is quite unfair to you and your child. In such situations, and generally, as well, your child comes first and while family relationships are important as well, it is also essential to cut off toxic family members who negatively impact your mental health. Perhaps it is time to work on yourself and your child and socialize in order to find a new circle of friends and family. You deserve to be happy, and I wish you the best of luck!
Feel free to reach out if you would like to talk further :)
@gigantCloud92
Very good answer I think.
From Helga.
Hello. I'm not a mother yet but I have an older sister. What has happened to you would also make me angry and emotional. Your family, especially your sister should always be on your top list when talk about holidays and get togethers. Your emotions are valid, not inviting you over is a no no for me. It's a zoo and you have a child to begin with. True family will never ever do this. Talk with your sister/family.
I think you have a big heart
I would invite your parents to your home so you and your child can spend time with them in your area. And yes try and find a social circle you and your child can become part of closer to where you lice.
