Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Friday 30th November
Heyy Trauma Community,
Day 3 of the ACT series we are doing you can always read my previous 2 checkins, if you feel interested in taking part in the topic the topic this week is, Day 3: Fix-it Doesnt Work- Goal: To understand the limitations of simply trying to fix your pain.
Here is just a small note for thought
Its likely youve been using a fix-it mentality to find a solution for the cause of your suffering, but it may not be effective. Think about what actions you take to reduce, get rid of, or control your painful thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. Consider all the things you do to keep yourself from feeling pain. Perhaps you try not to think about certain things, stuff down your emotions, or turn to unhealthy behaviors that you find comforting, such as smoking or self-harm.
Homework you can do on this Check-In or in your personal journal in private
Short vs. Long term Benefit Exercise:
Reflect on your fix-it tendencies for each item in your suffering inventory from Day 2 [link] How effective have you been in the short and long-term? In other words, how much immediate or long-term relief do you get from your tendency to escape, avoid, or get rid of the pain? Youll likely notice that although there is often some immediate benefit, the benefit is short-lived. For example, if Im afraid of failing, I might work extra hard to avoid this fear or pain. It helps for a little while, but then the fear resurfaces.
Bonus Activity
Share your thoughts below to better understand this concept.
Questions
Do any of you agree with the above concept and the past topics if so thoughts on why you do if not id love to hear your views too?
if you agree with these topics do you find them helpful for recovery, for reflection on how you feel if your letting yourself feel etc? if not howcome ?
How are you all feeling?
Any goals you wish to work towards after reading this topic?
Of Course this topic is totally optional, no one is forced to take part we can just do a regular check-in. wether thats saying how your feeling today just a hi etc its super awesome you are here. proud of you all for sticking it out with us over the past few months.
I highly apologise last few weeks my session was cancelled for my guided discussion sometimes life throws unexpected health in the way but my discussions coming up are 2pm EST, 7pm GMT in Trauma.Topic this week is Session Three - The Denial of Trauma and abuse. Teen Trauma Discussion 6pm EST Tuesday topic Dealing with Domestic Abuse.
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I would like to deal with your ACT sessions, but I'm really dealing with my depression and gout issues. I've been in bed for days, painful foot, fevers, moody , and exhausted. My sleep apnea is messing with me getting decent sleep and I'm still waiting for my doctor to get a cpap machine.
Trauma wise I feel if it wasn't one problem, it's another with me. Sometime I strive for normal as boring as it may be
@Rebekahwriter13 I'm so sorry to hear you're still in pain and not feeling well. I hope you get the cpap soon so you can get a decent night's sleep.
@Kate Thank you, no plan to rest this weekend
@Rebekahwriter13 its ok i understand , sorry to hear about all of that rebekah pain isnt nice in any form i hope you get that cpap asap too your not alone when it comes to apnea i can relate
@CaringBrit do you have a cpap?
@Rebekahwriter13 i do yes but cant seem to wear it long it irritates my face and after 4 hours i wake rested but when i wake i gasp for air and knock it off my face
@CaringBrit I'm worried I will not get used to it
@Rebekahwriter13 have you spoken to them about that worry
@CaringBrit yes my doctor just ficus on the time no do get when I use the machine
@Rebekahwriter13 im not sure i understand this post your doctor focus is the only bit i do understand the rest doesnt read very well
@CaringBrit sorry it's was 3am when I post and then autocorrect messes up my words, her.
I had a sleep study done, this week we are discussing the results. However didnt get much actual sleep with the machine, the assassiant didn't give me the right facial mask. Im afraid I'll have to take it again.
I did buy pillows and I'm try to sleep sitting up.
@Rebekahwriter13 oh no i struggled with the sleep study parts i needed to keep connected to me kept unpluggling in my sleep but when i was out they could tell i had the condition
@CaringBrit they knew I had sleep apnea by the stocky pieces they put on
@CaringBrit hi
@crimsonLime6525 *waves*
@Kate *waves back* cup of tea?
@crimsonLime6525 Yes please. Thank you. What kind?
@Kate think I am going to have peppermint, what would you prefer?
@crimsonLime6525 Peppermint sounds wonderful.
@crimsonLime6525 heyyy lime
@CaringBrit sending you a hug ❤️
@crimsonLime6525 aww ty hugs
@CaringBrit ty, trying to slowly come out of hiding
@crimsonLime6525 take all the time you need when i see you here im proud of you lime
@CaringBrit
weel spirituality bother me so became agnostic
now start to think more that myb we are perfect and supose to be natural more raither than like too much inecent
to me seams being wise hiyer than pure
idk still wonder dose that makes sense
@conscientiousPineapple1782 a little not fully sure what your meaning though
@CaringBrit
I mean being just natural raither than try be some ideal person.
still I belive that some amount of good thought should be
idk just how much that makes sense
just thought today about that
@conscientiousPineapple1782 ah ok that makes sense
Bad pain. I dont want to be here today. I will, because I dont really have a choice in the matter, I exist and therefore I am here. But sometimes I wish it wasnt. Bad pain inside today. Dont know why. More flashbacks lately, remembering stuff that I couldnt before. Used to have a lot a lot of unhealthy coping mechanisms. Have changed many of them, which is good, but hard Every time I give one up or change something. I making progress, big progress actually, for the first time in a few years, but hurts so bad today. I dont even know what it is that I supposedly hold against myself that makes me not wanna be here anymore. Just hurts inside so much sometimes I think. I am struggling on. Sorry. Finding it difficult to be positive today. Although I did accomplish some positive things during the day so that is a plus.So much pain everywhere I look inside of me everywhere. So many years hiding not knowing cant remember. Then it changes it all started coming back and I remember why I chose to forget or why my brain never let me remember and the first place. It makes a lot more sense now. I know Im getting better overall, Helps me to get healthy and have a better future. Fine. But now is so hard really hard right now. Trying to get through it all but struggling a lot. Sorry. Help please anyone? Kind of encouraging words? Reasons to exist when I finally start to come face-to-face with the exactly how much I hate myself. So sorry. Trying...
@pioneeringBanana1598 aww i understand how you are feeling right now pain in any form is very tough but proud of you for sticking it out despite it being tough
great job on being abkle to change some of those unhealthy coping mechanisms that takes strength awesome on the progress your making too. its ok if you find you cant be positive we are here for you
These days have been scary and weird but I got some stuff done
My mom actually can understand me
It'll be December tomorrow
@wittySpruce8187 a new month yikes going fast eh do you like the holidays or find it stressful since we have christmas coming up
thats great you mum understands you witty
aww no on the days being scary scary isnt easy
@CaringBrit
Hi 💜
I generally like this month and the holidays a lot it use to be my favorite time of the year but idk how it's gonna be this year
@CaringBrit where do I find sex counseling at?
