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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Trauma Support Automated Taglist
by CaringBrit
Last post
 July 7th
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to Trauma Support Community [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?23eb3b680028ac32c998125af8d8f262]. <<<< checkin posters refer to this click then copy for taglist its instant updated To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words, Please remove me. highlighting keywords as these are needed no forms to fill in just type to this thread . dont need to copy the colouring though just the keywords highlight is so they stand out is all. New taglist as of August 9th 2024 by audienta @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
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Schedule: Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community
by audienta
Last post
 February 8th
...See more Hello everyone, The Trauma Sub-Community Discussion Team currently hosts one discussion per week: * Tuesday, 11 AM ET: DID/OSDD-1 Safety and Stabilization Group (adults), hosted by mytwistedsoul The discussions will be announced the day before they happen by the host who will lead the chat in this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/DiscussionsonDissociativeDisordersAnnouncementPosts_303372/]. If you want to be tagged for them, please leave a comment below. And if you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. The discussions take place in the trauma support room [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=k2tqdHaUk5qdlLBpiYbDlQ%21%21]. To access this room, you need to have either the Chief Chat or the First Post plus the Compassion Hero badge. You can find more information on that here. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/CommunityManagersOffice_2008/NewCriteriaUpdatesGroupChatsEasierToAccessNow_280544/] The trauma support room is only open on Weekends and during the discussions. In addition to the above, there are Listener Learning Discussions on Dissociative Disorders. You can find the schedules here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/listenerjourney/ListenerLearningDiscussions_1896/]. ------------------------- Trauma support room (info here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/CommunityManagersOffice_2008/NewCriteriaUpdatesGroupChatsEasierToAccessNow_280544/]). Take care, audienta (last updated: 28/04/2026)
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Poetry
by goldenCherry425
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more Real Question- Do y’all like poetry? Does it help you to write or read poetry about trauma? If you be nice to me I’ll share some here. :)
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Overthinking (even) the title
by DontGetAnyBigIdeas
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more Just writing this here as a raw vent. I’m not looking for advice or solutions right now, I just feel cornered and needed a safe place to put this out of my head. (But everyone’s welcome to respond.) Growing up, my childhood seemed okay from the outside, but the little time my dad spent home from work was filled with constant terror. Even now, he tries to force me to live life "by the book." His control left me deeply insecure, to the point where I still instinctively believe his negative voice over anyone else's. For a while, I tried to prove I had control over my own life. After my cousin died, I got a tattoo and a piercing. After a breakup, I went out and bought a brand new car without telling my dad. It felt like a new beginning at the time, like everything will just magically start feeling better, but the high wore off and I just ended up feeling hopeless all over again and started coping in an unhealthy way. Now, I feel completely stuck. People who know me are actually trying to support me and are encouraging me to start my own business. But because my self-worth is so low, I just end up pushing them away. I am just caught in a lonely cycle—stuck between the father who broke my confidence, the people I won't let close enough to help, and a total lack of belief in myself. 
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Feeling hollowness
by TheIntellectualFelloww
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more Hi everyone idk how to heal i try to keep myself busy and happy all the time but when I m free at night i m back to that again feeling of deep sadness void idk how to recover from it completely any suggestions ?
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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Struggling
by goldenCherry425
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I'm afraid to admit how much I'm struggling because asking for help has led to losing connections with people, feeling more alone, and experiencing even more trauma. So I keep pretending and getting by, trying to be strong enough to handle everything I've suppressed. I'm exhausted and losing grip of everything. I keep trying to improve my life to become someone I can be proud of, (or at least that my mom will respect) or live a life that's worth living but I still hate who I am. Keeping myself inside isn't enough. No matter what I try, I always find more flaws in myself than in others. I don't know which direction to take in my life right now and I'm terrified I'll make the wrong decision like I always do. I've felt dead inside for decades and like I wasn't even supposed to meet this age. I feel like I have to prove I'm worth caring about by pushing myself harder and harder, but I always end up breaking myself in the process. I'm afraid of being too much, disappointing everyone, and never actually being enough all at the same time. I've felt different from everyone else my whole life, and since my family doesn't understand me, it makes me and others believe that something is fundamentally wrong with me. They keep their distance when I'm around so I moved far to not be around. I just want to be somewhere else or nowhere. I'm not very religious but there's gotta be more than this life. When I can, I imagine what that might be like, just for a moment to not feel this pain, and is it worth walking into traffic for? I'm tired of trying so hard to feel better only to end up in the same place, ashamed, anxious, and alone. I know I can improve my skills and my circumstances, but I'm exhausted by the fact that the pain and shame just piles up and never seems to go away. There is no home to settle in. I just want to be someone else. Being alive feels like being on fire (or worse) and I wish I could just put it out. I feel like that's what I need. Like it's what is best for me but I "know it's not" or so they say.
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Extremely tired
by wanttobebetter2026
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Im very tired of all the trauma and bullying that I had to go through. Even now, im facing a lot of hardships, the details I dont want to mention now. Im just so tired
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Excerpt from “The Butcher Game” by Alaina Urquhart
by livliv45
Last post
 Saturday
...See more This really stuck w me.  “Suddenly, she's thrust into battle again. She smells the swampy earth and feels the cypress branches scratch at her. It's the world of her nightmare. Everything around her constricts and spins. The heat, the sounds, the smells; it's all-consuming and wretched. Pungent waves assault her senses, smelling like rotten wood and death. She swears she sees a snake slither over her foot but quickly shakes her head and it's gone. A phantom bug falls on her shoulder and she panics. Nothing is there. But she hears the sounds. The cicadas scream, louder than ever. The taste of blood fills her mouth, a burst of metal that threatens to make her retch. Her hands clap over her ears instinctively, trying to block out his voice, which she just knows is about to come out of the speakers above her. She's so sure it will come. Hands clamp down on her shoulders, and reflexively she spins around to punch. Leroux stumbles back, almost losing his balance and narrowly missing her fist connecting with his cheek. Suddenly, she's grounded in place with him. His face is there, comforting her despite her attack. "Wren, i's John!" he yells, inching back toward her. She lowers her fists to her sides, suddenly feeling the chaos around her deflate like a clipped balloon. It rushes out, and suddenly all is quiet. The buzz is calming again, the trees tickle, and the sun pokes through the canopy in streams of light. I's not what it was. It's never going to be that again.“
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Trauma Support Community Check-In for August 2024 - Don't Be A Bully Month
by audienta
Last post
 Saturday
...See more Hello everyone, welcome to this month's check-in! This month is "Don't Be A Bully Month"! Bullying can happen to everyone at any age. It can have a massive impact on someone's mental health and can even cause depression, PTSD, and anxiety. Why do people bully? As a few examples, people can bully someone out of jealousy, because they feel threatened, or because they want to express power. Often, bullies have been victims before, which can cause a negative cycle.  You can recognise bullying for example when people claim credit for the work of their target, spread rumours about them, or turn people against the victim. As a bystander, you could try to use humour to redirect the conversation, walk with the victim to help diffuse potential interactions and check in with the bullied person to let them know that you support them. (source 1 [https://www.healthassured.org/blog/dont-be-a-bully-month/]) And if you're bullied yourself, you could try the following strategies: * Decide when you respond; sometimes it might be better to avoid the person. * Make eye contact to signal that you're self-confident. * Try to make space between you and the bully and limit your interactions. * Document the offences to use when filing a complaint or reporting the bully's actions.  * Consider working with a mental health professional to cope with the mental effects of bullying. * Talk to your co-workers/students, friends, and family to feel supported and not alone. (source 2 [https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-deal-with-adult-bullying-5187158#toc-how-to-deal-with-adult-bullying]) Dealing with a trauma-related mental health disorder can make you an easier target for bullies and being bullied can be traumatic. Therefore, there is a connection between bullying and trauma. If you're reading this and have experienced bullying, please know that you're not alone. We're here for you. ------------------------- Trauma Support Community Check-In for August 2024 1) What is your favourite strategy to stay cool during hot days? 2) Have you ever experienced bullying yourself or as a bystander? How has it impacted you? 3) What has helped you to deal with bullies, as a victim or bystander? ------------------------- If you have a question you'd like me to ask at the next check-in, please let me know! Take care, audienta ------------------------- You can get added to or removed from the trauma support taglist here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/ampResources_2334/TraumaSupportAutomatedTaglist_219256/]. @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @Amelia763 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
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If you could say one thing to your bully.....
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 Saturday
...See more If you could say one thing to your bully, what would it be?
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A Shadow That Remembers **TW (SA)
by goldenCherry425
Last post
 Friday
...See more Writing this one healed one. One of my favorites. A Shadow That Remembers A shadow follows me. She’s 7 years old  still waiting for  someone to notice she never came home. She drags her coat along the floor in the middle of July, dressed for a winter storm everyone forgot. She holds the same mossy eyes as me. She is not a stranger. She is the ache underneath my silence, The rage behind my ribs, Her sorrow is woven through  every story I tell.  Her body was trespassed  and harmed by people that towered over her. She’s kept secrets  before she knew secrets  could be cruel. She’s trapped inside  an abandoned house in her chest  and her small fists are banging  on the walls to get out. I tell her we’re older now  We can get out of this house. We know how to leave. That no one can touch us  without our permission. And I find her staring eyes confused  like I don’t understand her.  Because, time to her  is a hallway with no exits Every footstep is a beginning  of something she cannot stop Every silence is a mouth  holding back a scream. The flames died years ago but the alarm is still ringing. The walls of the house never learned the difference  between smoke and sunlight. And when I get to her, I will unclench her frozen fists, hang her coat up to dry, And break down every wall  that kept her inside. <3
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DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) explained and how to help
by Kyoshi
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Since the community on 7 cups is growing every day, more members/listeners with DID are joining. DID or any dissociative disorder has a lot of stigma surrounding it. Let's start breaking down the wall surrounding DID, to make a safe environment for DID members. What is DID? DID is a mental health condition caused by childhood trauma, people with DID have 2 or more "alters" These alters can be different age and gender, they can have a very different personality and interests. Each identity has its own personal history, traits, likes and dislikes DID can cause gaps in the memory DID is one of several dissociative disorders. These disorders affect a person’s ability to connect with reality. The disorder is a way for someone to distance or detach themselves from trauma. Myths and misconceptions -Myth DID is very rare Not even close. It's yearly prevalence rate (1,5 %) is actually more common than young women with bulimia and even on par with well-known conditions like OCD -Myth people with DID are very dangerous Contrary to popular belief, survivors with DID are no more dangerous than those with any other mental health condition or the general public. -Myth switching in DID will be dramatic False. Only a very, very small percentage of the DID population has an over presentation of their alters or switches (5-6%). While some hints of detection can be seen amongst friends and therapists, most changes are passable as completely normal human behavior. -Myth DID is multipe personalities Having separate identities is merely the byproduct of something greater, not the sole disorder. The real dysfunction lies in the complex trauma and the countless effects it had on the child’s mind and their neurology -- including flashbacks, nightmares, hypervigilance, dissociative amnesia ('losing time'), depersonalization/derealization, emotion dysregulation, somatic symptoms, and heightened vulnerability to a long list of other medical and mental health disorders. Most of the healing from DID revolves around the processing of traumatic memories and sifting through the layers and layers of pain, sadness, anger, betrayal, grief and trauma that each alter holds. DID is ultimately a trauma disorder, NOT a disorder of personality. -Myth DID can develop at any age DID only develops in early childhood, no later. Current research suggests before the ages of 6-9 (while other papers list even as early as age 4). Prolonged, repeated trauma later in life (particularly that which is at the sole control of another person, or breaks down a person’s psyche and self-perception) may result in Complex PTSD- which does have overlapping symptoms - but they will not develop DID. How to support someone with DID: If someone you know has been diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder, it doesn’t mean that person is no longer who you think they are. People with Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID, often refer to their overall consciousness and way of living as a “system.” In some cases, the system works together well and the various states of altered consciousness support each other through their days. In other cases, the various “alters” in a system may struggle to navigate their days and to manage stress and trauma. Learn what you can about their disorder. Take advantage of educational opportunities and any therapeutic involvement in your loved one’s treatment. Only with a greater understanding of their experience living with dissociative identity disorder and the possibilities for recovery can you play an active role in the process. Simply by learning more, you are also working to reduce the stigma around this serious disorder, paving the way for compassion and the responsible care of our overall mental health. Learning more about this condition can help you understand what your loved one is going through and teach you how to support someone with dissociative identity disorder. Dissociative identity disorder is characterized by the presence of one or more personalities in the same person, typically referred to as “alters.” These alters are all part of a greater system that makes up the individual. While some of these alters may be aware of each other, others may have no concept of the different personalities and may have completely different sets of beliefs, ideas and maturity levels. In many cases, people have difficulty remembering events that happened while different alters were present. Stay calm during switches In many cases, switching between alters happens very subtly. However, sometimes the change can be more dramatic and disorienting. One moment you’re talking to your friend and in the next moment, it’s as if an entirely different person is inhabiting their body. While this situation may be stressful and surprising, remaining levelheaded and meeting your friend where they are mentally can be enormously helpful. As confusing as witnessing a switch can be for an outsider, it’s often even more upsetting for the person experiencing it directly, especially if they are met with hostility or fear. Learn how to recognize and avoid triggers For people with dissociative identity disorder, personality shifts are brought on by “triggers,” or external stimuli that cause them to switch between alters. Individuals with this condition may be triggered by anything that elicits a strong emotional response, including certain places, smells, sounds, senses of touch, times of the year or large groups of people. These triggers are highly individual and can vary dramatically depending on the specific trauma that caused a person to develop dissociative identity disorder. Take care of yourself too Being close to someone with dissociative identity disorder can be emotionally taxing. It can be difficult to stay vigilant of triggers and different alters. Often, people with this condition have been through intensely traumatic experiences. And hearing about these experiences can be difficult. The best way you can serve your friend is to make sure that you’re tending to your own physical and mental well-being.
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TW The Trap Was intriguing to me and exciting as a child
by creativeStrings1531
Last post
 Thursday
...See more As a child at the age of five my mom was trapped by a babysitter's husband during her divorce to my dad at the babysitter's house she showed up unannounced to try to kidnap my brother and I from the babysitter's house so the babysitter's husband stood against the front door preventing her from taking my brother and I have the front door she escaped with us to her Vega her blue two door Vega where she put my brother and I in the back seat of the car after she had us in the backseat of the car my mom and the babysitter's husband began to skip around her car and when she was skipping I heard her say dinky dinky this is stinky let me go she kept on saying that for about 5 until they got into the car and got into a fight the babysitter's husband threatened to break up my mom's arms if she did not get her car keys to him and my mom told him not to fart in her car and got out and started skipping around the car again until my dad showed up I gained a hero and role model that day because my mom wasn't supposed to be there and I used to play with the babysitters kids her son and her daughter the babysitter's husband will always be my hero and role model I have ended up practicing all the moves by standing against the door and skipping around my own car I practice because I have hatred toward my mom still to this day I see a therapist because of this situation

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

What are the different forum topics for Trauma Support?

Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

Check-Ins & Prompts:  Regular check-ins and prompts, created by our leadership team

Child & Domestic Abuse: For people who have experienced child abuse, domestic abuse or even both

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Creativity Corner: A creative space for poetry, art, and healing and recovery quotes

Dissociation & Related Disorders: A place to discuss your struggles with dissociation and how it relates to your trauma

Introductions & Welcomes: Are you new to the Trauma Community? Share a little about yourself!

Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

PTSD & Complex Trauma: Share stories and seek support for PTSD and complex PTSD

Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
Read the 7 Cups Guidelines
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