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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Trauma Support Automated Taglist
by CaringBrit
Last post
 July 7th
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to Trauma Support Community [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?23eb3b680028ac32c998125af8d8f262]. <<<< checkin posters refer to this click then copy for taglist its instant updated To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words, Please remove me. highlighting keywords as these are needed no forms to fill in just type to this thread . dont need to copy the colouring though just the keywords highlight is so they stand out is all. New taglist as of August 9th 2024 by audienta @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
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Schedule: Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community
by audienta
Last post
 February 8th
...See more Hello everyone, The Trauma Sub-Community Discussion Team currently hosts one discussion per week: * Tuesday, 11 AM ET: DID/OSDD-1 Safety and Stabilization Group (adults), hosted by mytwistedsoul The discussions will be announced the day before they happen by the host who will lead the chat in this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/DiscussionsonDissociativeDisordersAnnouncementPosts_303372/]. If you want to be tagged for them, please leave a comment below. And if you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. The discussions take place in the trauma support room [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=k2tqdHaUk5qdlLBpiYbDlQ%21%21]. To access this room, you need to have either the Chief Chat or the First Post plus the Compassion Hero badge. You can find more information on that here. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/CommunityManagersOffice_2008/NewCriteriaUpdatesGroupChatsEasierToAccessNow_280544/] The trauma support room is only open on Weekends and during the discussions. In addition to the above, there are Listener Learning Discussions on Dissociative Disorders. You can find the schedules here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/listenerjourney/ListenerLearningDiscussions_1896/]. ------------------------- Trauma support room (info here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/CommunityManagersOffice_2008/NewCriteriaUpdatesGroupChatsEasierToAccessNow_280544/]). Take care, audienta (last updated: 28/04/2026)
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Just wanted to check
by scenicNight6182
Last post
 46 minutes ago
...See more How are you feeling today ( just wanted to check ) 🤍🤍  If you are feeling good then share your experience today, and if you are feeling sad or worried then you can share it here, I am here for you 🌼
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The Weight of Human Nature
by ICJTech
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more I had another emotional breakdown last night, triggered by a video claiming people used to act better in the past. I’ve seen enough to know cruelty never went away — it just moved from public spaces to digital ones. Human nature itself weighs on me. I see how easily it drives people to hurt each other, and it’s one of the reasons I’ve lived like a hermit for so long. I stumbled across videos of people on drugs, and all I could think was, “How much pain do they have to be in to do stuff like that?” It made everything feel heavier. This world overwhelms me, and I can’t stand how people treat one another, and I’m tired of seeing their demons.
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Never Forgive an Abuser
by SimonRoman
Last post
 5 hours ago
...See more My father tried not to be evil, but it was just his nature to abuse people. It came naturally to him. After 4 yrs of being beaten I was ready to fight. I had practiced for it. A friend knew martial arts and taught me some moves. My fatherimmediately backed down. He did not want to get hit. But the abuse did not end, he just started using different tactics. He tried to set me up to get arrested for variousoffenses, including extortion, drugs, and GTA. He falesly accussed me on a number of occassions. When I was given some bad acid he finally got the chance he was looking for. He called the cops and told them I had a weapon and was threatening people. I had no weapon and I only wanted a hug. I was in my boxer shorts (again, no weapon) when the cops beat the shitout of me. I woke up strapped to the bed in a mental hospital. He wanted me to be sent to prison but I had not committed any crime. After a week in the mental ward they realized it was just a bad trip and I was not crazy, so they let me go. I was 17 at that time. Even though I moved in with my mom my father continued to call the police in her area and accusse me of crime I did not committ. As a lawyer he was very convincing and eventually got the DA to charge me with extortion for telling a kid who stole me comic books to give them back or I’d beat his ***. Technically, that’s extortion, and it is a felony. My father was so happy - like he won the lottery. The judge orderedme to finish high school at a drug rehab, which I did. My father spent the next 30 yrs poisoning every relationship I had methodically. It was never the same story twice. He was a Harvard lawyer (graduated *** laude), and a Psychologyundergrad, and he used his training and skills to tailor each disparagement campaign to the audience. To my uncle he said I was lazy, to my cousin he said I was dishonest, to my aunt he said I was crazy - like that. Each person heard a different message with a single goal: poison the relationship. In 2022 my father was murdered by his two daughters (lol what a ***). He was so busy trying to destroy my life he didn’t see what they were doing. After he died I found out about all the lies. He lied to everyone to turn them against me, and my siblings knew me well so they knew he was lying. They fearedhe might be doing the same thing to them behind their backs - why wouldn’t he? So they set him up to be killed. Me and my girlfriend tried to save him not knowing what he had been doing behind my back for the past 30 yrs, but luckily we failed. He might still be alive and ruining more of my life to this day. I moved to a new country and I have a fiancee. I wish I could forget the past. I wishit would jot bother me so much. I’m just so angry about it. It’s not the burning rage I’ve had over the past 4 yrs, but I am still mad and I am sad. My whole family is gone except a couple cousins. My siblings are my enemies and my parents’ siblings cannot be trusted. My mother is still alive but hopefully my sister will put her away in a “facility” sometime soon. I hate them both. The irony is that I tried to help my mother get on meds and she wouldn’t be vulnerable today if she had not fought me. I flew her to Palm Beach to see a top specialist - a neuropsychiatrist - but my mother refused to take the meds. Now her dumb *** has dementia (lol) and her brain is going bye-bye. My parents and my family are evil. Theyare Greedy, jealous, underhanded, dupliciois betrayers. I am glad I got away from them but of course one wishes for a good family life. Nobody wants to have an evil family. Now I just want to make sure the family that I build has no toxicity, no abuse or mind games, and no jealousy or greed. The negative influence of my parents and siblings is still weighing on me and I am terrified that I will screw up my new family. I wish I never forgave my father. I was told by everyone to put the abuse in thr past, and he learned to smile to my face while stabbing me in the back. Tbh I am not certain he even perceived what he was doing was wrong. ALL lawyers are evil - I actually workwith attorneys so I speak from decades of experience with them. My father being a lawyer probably had no remorse for damaging my family relationships, making my siblings hate me and hate each other. He manipulated people without thinking about it. From his perspective, there was never anything to forgive, and so I should not have assumed there was either.
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After counselling session
by Kayles96
Last post
 5 hours ago
...See more Hey all so I’ve had a Counselling’s session this morning and it’s left me feeling very strange. I get told this is normal to feel but it’s horrible and I am struggling with it now. I find after js the worse part. Any suggestions or anyone able to have a chat (I’m aware you can’t message each other on here) Thank you all feel very very vulnerable at moment.
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Moments
by placidPlane1200
Last post
 11 hours ago
...See more Ever since my mom died I've in away had the bandaids of the wounds she left ripped off. So ive been trying to deal with things as they come up.. lately it's been how my mom never wanted me. She did, but she didn't.. so she was a life long alcoholic. Never admitted it an hated anything an everything to do with recovery.. when my parents divorced my dad dove head long into recovery an has lived it everyday since..he started taking me to meetings at 7 years old ...mom hated that. As i got older the abuse from that side of my family got worse so did the drinking..finally at 13 I'd had enough..an i refused a beating over grades. That small act i didnt realize how much It ment till lately. My mom at that point decided to sign her rights to my dad. Effectively giving me up. She even told me she wasn't going to do visitation or childsupport an that I'd be welcome to visit if she felt up to it..to my 13year old brain that didnt register..it was a few years before I visited again. Now here I am almost 50 ..an realizing what all that ment. She didnt want me ...an thats fine..it didnt feel fine till I realized why...all the aa meeting I'd been to an heard the talks of acholoizem being a disease it didnt click..she didnt want me because she had a disease..one that wanted control an manipulation. An thats what she wanted of me ..control an manipulation..if I couldn't be controlled or manipulated then she didnt want me..an my act of defiance was that point. Dose it make it better..no..dose it make it OK....no...dose it make it make more sense yes...where dose that leave me..i don't know... I honestly don't know what to do with this moment.
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Trauma Bond
by Eyowin
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more I dated a guy, he was very intense at first saying he wants a last partner forever and a family with them. He wanted me to move in with him right away. And after some convincing I did it. But he was pretty unhappy with me being there, he wanted it, but then when he had it, he kept having negative thoughts and words towards me. I decided to leave, asking him if he wants me there, he said he already said everything about it. So I asked a friend to help me move out the next day and told my bf. On the same day I discovered I am pregnant and so I said I will leave and that I am pregnant in the message. He did not respond. And when he came home I asked if he wants to talk. He didn't. I was so heartbroken. I left. But I kept bleeding and having pain, so I had to go to the hospital. He told me to ask my friend. So I just drove alone by bus. At some point he showed up there and then started to convince me to come back to him. Sadly the bleeding continued and I had to go to surgery, because they thought there was an issue. He convinced me to go back to him and I did. He went with me to the hospital, where I actually lost it due to a medical error. After a month we tried for a baby again, and he broke up with me right after. He said he can't do it anymore. When I accepted, he asked me for pictures so he can get dating apps and find a life partner to have a family with. Within a few days he changed his mind and convinced me to stay. So I did, but in another month he contacted his ex behind my back and then again telling her he loves her and will always love her. I wanted to leave, but he convinced me to stay again, that he will do his best to repair what is between us, and that he meant it more like a goodbye with her. In another few months he filmed me while I was crying and having a breakdown. And that was the time I finally left. He drove after me to another country twice, the last time telling me he will do everything in his power to make me forgive. And that he wants a family with me. And we tried, only for him to leave after five days, because we had a fight. I tried to stay away from him, he kept reaching out. It was painful, whenever I didn't respond immediately he would call me a *** and spreading legs while he was suffering because he loves me. He gave me ultimatum to come back to his country to the next day or to never see him again. And blocked me everywhere. Since then I tried to move on, but I love him, it's incredibly powerful. I see everything he has done to me, but I can't get over it. I laid in depression for the past months. I just don't want anymore. Today I saw a post on ***, he is sitting there in some fluffy onesie on obviously girly balcony. I reacted and blocked him everywhere. But damn it hurts. It's just four weeks after he left, and two after he said he loves me. I know this is not how love is supposed to look like. The amount of betrayal, manipulation and terrible things happening. And I still want him back so much. What do I do? I wish I could just kill the love.
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My family issues 👶💔
by neonMaple1666
Last post
 23 hours ago
...See more My family are really hurting me 😭💔
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"TW" The Trap
by creativeStrings1531
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more My mom and dad had a divorce when I was five. she showed up to a babysitter's house and the babysitter's husband trapped her and chased her around the outside of her car. my mom didn't have custody of my brother and I. She was trying to kidnap my brother and I at the time. today the babysitter's husband is my hero and role model
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TW The Trap Was intriguing to me and exciting as a child
by creativeStrings1531
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more As a child at the age of five my mom was trapped by a babysitter's husband during her divorce to my dad at the babysitter's house she showed up unannounced to try to kidnap my brother and I from the babysitter's house so the babysitter's husband stood against the front door preventing her from taking my brother and I have the front door she escaped with us to her Vega her blue two door Vega where she put my brother and I in the back seat of the car after she had us in the backseat of the car my mom and the babysitter's husband began to skip around her car and when she was skipping I heard her say dinky dinky this is stinky let me go she kept on saying that for about 5 until they got into the car and got into a fight the babysitter's husband threatened to break up my mom's arms if she did not get her car keys to him and my mom told him not to fart in her car and got out and started skipping around the car again until my dad showed up I gained a hero and role model that day because my mom wasn't supposed to be there and I used to play with the babysitters kids her son and her daughter the babysitter's husband will always be my hero and role model I have ended up practicing all the moves by standing against the door and skipping around my own car I practice because I have hatred toward my mom still to this day I see a therapist because of this situation
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The Dinky Dinky trap
by creativeStrings1531
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more 'TW' At the age of 5 my mom and dad were going through a divorce and she tried kidnapping my brother and I from a babysitter's house because she didn't have custody of us so the babysitter's husband did against his front door and blocked it on my mom so she took us out the back door after a little while of being trapped inside the house she got us to the car which was a two-door Vega color blue she put us into the back seat of a car the babysitter's husband came out of his house said he was going to jump on the hood of her car then they skipped around her car she started to say dinky dinky let me go they got inside of her car they had a fight the babysitter's husband told her he was going to break off her arms if she did not give up her car keys to him she told him not to fart in her car we got back out skipped around it some more until my dad showed to me babysitter's husband is my hero and role model because of him I feel sometimes like trapping my mom and chasing her around her car myself I practice just about every day when I can
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Who knew?
by SilverTabbyCat63
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more How many of us are traumatized children and don't even know?... Turns out I am, and the ridiculous thing is, I have had a lifetime of health work… Thankfully, I always had intuitive knowing and was always proved right…
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Trauma/OCD
by Flwvdee
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hey... Hard to hear those damn beep sounds? I am tired of hearing sounds its traumatising from my past.

Trauma Support

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

What are the different forum topics for Trauma Support?

Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

Check-Ins & Prompts:  Regular check-ins and prompts, created by our leadership team

Child & Domestic Abuse: For people who have experienced child abuse, domestic abuse or even both

Coping with Attachment Difficulties: Help and support for people with attachment difficulties

Creativity Corner: A creative space for poetry, art, and healing and recovery quotes

Dissociation & Related Disorders: A place to discuss your struggles with dissociation and how it relates to your trauma

Introductions & Welcomes: Are you new to the Trauma Community? Share a little about yourself!

Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

PTSD & Complex Trauma: Share stories and seek support for PTSD and complex PTSD

Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
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