Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in: Friday March 15th
Hey Trauma Family,
Another Check-In day from myself we are on Day 13 of the ACT series yayy
Day 13: Gain Clarity Goal: To gain clarity about your values.
Goals are concrete achievable events, situations, or objects. They can be completed, possessed, or finished. Goals often get confused with directions (values).
Question for you to answer below:
What are your values?
Values are what you want your life to be about. Values are a journey, not a destination. Values are intentional.
Imagine If… Exercise:
Bring to mind an item from your suffering inventory from Day 2 that holds you back from living the life you want to life. This should be an experience or situation that causes you pain that you may have a tendency to avoid or not think about. Imagine how your life would be different if your pain went away. Imagine that someone has waved a magic wand over you, and your pain has vanished. Imagine that you wake up one morning and suddenly, for no reason at all, the pain and suffering are gone.
What would you do?
What would you want your life to be about?
How has your current psychological struggle interfered with your goals and dreams in life?
Examples: If anger werent such a problem for me, I would have more intimate relationships. If I didnt have so much stress, I would work harder at my career, and I would try to find the job I always dreamed of having.
Reminder of Suffering Inventory Exercise:
Write down a list of all of the problems that are currently psychologically difficult for you. Be honest and thorough in creating your suffering inventory but dont overthink it. Just write down what plagues you and causes you pain-including any of your thoughts, feelings, memories, urges, bodily sensations, or habits that may distress you.
Tip: Remember to include your reactions. For example, my boss would not be a good example of a difficult problem but getting frustrated with my boss or feeling put down by my boss might be.
Bonus Activity:
Share your thoughts below to better understand this concept.
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@crimsonLime6525 heyy there lime
I value honesty, loyalty, perseverance, kindness above all else, love, strength, diversity, tolerance, and family, to name a few things.
I'm not sure how I would feel if my suffering went away... I don't use my C-PTSD as an identity, but I do think it's key in making me who I am, and, well, I may not like everything about myself, but as a whole I like who I'm becoming. Without my pain, I never would have met some of the most wonderful people in my life, I wouldn't have gone to school where I did, done things I've done... I'm not really sure how to do this activity. I'd still want my life to be about my values and my art... My struggles sure have made it harder to reach my goals, but that's given me character that wouldn't have been built and a human connection I couldn't have made as an artist if I didn't have it...
@betterchoices
heyy there love all of those Values you listed and interesting perspective too i gotta agree without facing the pain each and every one of us will get issues with various things it for sure does build our chrachter our strength who we become can even help us see red flags as we are able to spot them better than we used to before the experience
@CaringBrit
What would you do?
What would you want your life to be about?
How has your current psychological struggle interfered with your goals and dreams in life?
I woudn't be much perfectionist and my motoric skills would be great..seams anxaity make my body tired.Hm I may spend time with lots kind of ppl even once that not compatible with me at least for short time instade just how now lately with animals easier to say no.Feel proud of myself and not lonely..Would stop making excuses.
I think interfered that way I LET EMOTIONS CONTROL ME AND LOST BIT COMAN SENSE 
@conscientiousPineapple1782 Aww hugs if youd like one your not alone there
