Fear that this might become addiction
I went to a massage parlour for the first time in my life of this kind. Little background: never had a girlfriend (past and present), not the best in that area as in flirting n all and don’t even know properly my intentions in that area of life I know I want to eventually settle down with a nice girl who supports me and loves me but thinking about it now makes me feel distracted from my work and career(I’m 21). My experience at the parlour was quite nice, it was an erotic massage(no sex of any kind not even oral). I am having an urge to visit the same place again, however it comes to mind of what it might to to my mind and maybe make me an addict to this thing and spoil my life expectation of intimacy and affect my future relationships.
please let me know what you guys think.
thanks
@straightforwardPine4332
Can it be addictive? Maybe not so fast. But it would certainly put your mind on the wrong path.
For most "relationship people" intimacy is both on the sexual and emotional level, i.e. you use your sexuality only with someone you love and admire, and whom you can trust (at least as a rule).
Going to a massage parlour is more like buying a product (or some service, actually) and can easily make your brain learn wrong patterns, especially when it is your first and so far only sexual experience.
Of course, being familiar of your body and its reaction before the real things start can be useful. But staying on this path can easily lead you to addiction to adult-only movies, strange tools and/or escort agencies instead of a complete, warm and nourishing relationship - IF you need one.
