I have compulsive sexual behaviour and it won't go
For a few years now i have struggled to control my feelings related to sex and have found myself mastur***ing everyday without my even having the feeling to do it, my hands subconsciously goes to those parts and I think its given me problems with desires and physical bodily issues, I dont know what to do as I've tried fixing it myself but i find it not working. Getting professional help makes me uncomfortable as I don't know how to talk about my issues without feeling ashamed or embarrassed. Any help or guidance with my issue would be heavily appreciated. Thank you for reading until the end. <3
@sunnyChestnut6007
Hey there. First of all i wanna appreciate you to sharing this. You are so brave. So CSBD - compulsive sexual behavior disorder has some causes. First you gonna figure it out that why you have CSB?
Possible reasons
1. TW/// S Abuse
2. Early sexualization
3. Porn addiction
4. You went through depression without realizing this!
5. maybe your mental health was poor and you assumed it normal!
I want you to found first what causes you to engage in these activities. I remember once i was addicted. I was living in a *** with the keys in my own hands. Yeah i know when you do these compulsive behaviours. It gonna affect your physiacal appearance in a negative way. It gonna affects your vanity too. Like it makes you socially awkward, dark circles, hair thining. skinny. and a lo of issues. Look Sex is a beautiful thing. But when it happen in a good way. Sex addiction is not about sex its all about the hijacked brain.
I have soem tips for you
1. Set a long term goal. Whatu you wanna be in next 5 years.
2.Avoid porn, social media!
3.Stay busy all the time
4.When you go into someplaces where you can ma******** like bathroom just do cleaning and keep your mind on exiting the door!
5. Stop tocuhing your genital, even a small touch.\
good luck
Hey, Sunny, you are not alone. I have been there - deep into the problem. Though I am in a better walk these days, it is still a struggle. Think about things this way. You have gotten off balance. Masturbation is normal and even helpful for healthy living. You are describing the compulsion I have known since puberty. There is guilt and shame - I get it. But, be kind to yourself.
The professional therapy route is hard - I tried it. Didn't stick with it, but it got me to think differently. There are some things you can do to make it less convenient for yourself, like activating the safe search feature on your browser. Yes, you can undo it and search for porn anyway, but it slows you down, makes you think, and gives you a chance to change your mind.
An accountability partner helps - there again, I know, embarrassment unless you feel close or safe with someone. Nonetheless, vulnerability changes your thought and activity patterns. If someone else can know or find out or even just ask you about it - well, you are likely to avoid the behavior.
At this point you must decide to not flood your mind with images that come circling back and pull you back in. A new activity will redirect your mind and time. I am certain you are wasting hours per day look for porn and *** and looking for more and "better" porn because the last pic or vid you looked at wasn't good enough. Change your use of time and it will change your life. There is only so much it to go around.
ps - I am glad to walk with you if you want - but you have to want it.
