I'm a sex addict

@blossom21 Hey. I think keeping yourself busy in something like reading, gardening can help you. 

Have you tried doing other things like school work or listening to music while cleaning your room

I can relate. I’ve been reduced to 6 X in 7 months.

try doing something active with your partner that involves intense physical movement like dancing, hiking, or working out together

I can relate. But my urges went to finding people outside my marriage, tho only virtually. But it was wrong. And now 18 months later I'm relapsing. But I'm trying to buckle down harder. Find more resources. One book talked about converting your sexual energy into something more creative or productive.

That being said, I think you deserve to have intimate needs met or discussed with your spouse. Maybe have a clearer talk about how frustrated you are and how willing you are. Maybe the problem is him? Thoughts?

I can relate. But my urges went to finding people outside my marriage, tho only virtually. But it was wrong. And now 18 months later I'm relapsing. But I'm trying to buckle down harder. Find more resources. One book talked about converting your sexual energy into something more creative or productive.

That being said, I think you deserve to have intimate needs met or discussed with your spouse. Maybe have a clearer talk about how frustrated you are and how willing you are. Maybe the problem is him? Thoughts?

I can understand , I am also sex addicted, but I am totally virgin and haven't done it yet

Dear @blossom21, 

It feels like an anger/control problem (same thing as things that you cannot control cause anger). What is it that you don't want to change? 

Or, What is it about life that requires so much control?