Porn addiction

I watched alot of porn since I was 8 and has been every day sometimes 5 times a day if I’m stressing or if I’m that way really badly. I did it to relieve stress and not to feel alone and to actually feel that because I didn’t have too much luck dating. I slowed down a bit and now usually comes out when my wife turns me down too often. I feel like I’m unwanted sometimes and use that as a way to feel better about myself. She caught me before and made her feel like ***, but it wasn’t to just fantasize about another woman. I needed to feel better about myself I guess. I get told I’m sexy and handsome and all this and I don’t know I’m more open about what I want than she is and I’m afraid she doesn’t even want me. As something I used for stress and stuff turned into a problem for her and sometimes I did only want to feel that ending because I never got it with her. I usually did it after work because I was stressed and when I went to bed, but I asked my wife for intimacy before I did myself. I’m kind of lost and stuff. I don’t know how many times is concidered too much or to be addicted, I’m asking advice about this I guess.