Am I a sex addict?
Hello, I really need to share my thoughts with you because I'm going crazy right now! Well, I am a 25 years old ( maybe gay ) man and since I was a kid I've liked masturbating, not by watching porn, mostly in my thoughts . The last time I had sex with another person was 10 years ago and hence that was the last time I had any physical contact with someone, but I've never stopped masturbating. I always considered myself a sex addict because I couldn't stop doing it. Every time I go out I stare at other men that I find attractive and I want to have sex with them but because I can't do this ( nobody knows I'm attracted to men so I can't express myself and fulfil my desires as well), I masturbate thinking of us having sex. In the past I had tried to abstain from masturbation but after 3 days I was starting all over again. Another time I withstood for 9 days but the same again. Recently, I promised to myself that I should do something. My life seems meaningless and I've got trouble to join society. So today it's been 23 days since the last time I pleasured myself and all these days I had no problem refraining, but emotionally I am a rack. My question is: Do you believe I am a sex addict or just a sexually oppressed person who is looking for physical contact?
Thanks!
@GreyGriffin93 do you want to talk about it sir?
@frothyPeace19 yeah why not? Every support or help is accepted! Thank you!
hi @GreyGriffin93,
In my opinion, this is perfectly normal. You have a very normal sex drive for a 25 year old man. I just think that you have been conditiond by society to believe that it is bad to masturbate, fantasize about others (especially the opposite sex), etc. I think that you're quite normal.
@pinkCat4744 Hello. Thank you for your post. The truth is that today it's been 30 days since the last time I masturbated. Now I start to believe that I had been growing up with this poor perception my entire life, however I'll keep going because in case I am an addict my effort to fight this it would be all in vain and I should start over. Though, I really get what you mean and I appreciate it. Thanks 😊
@GreyGriffin93
I know that this is a late response, but you are very welcome.
@pinkCat4744
Thank you. No worries. Eventually I guess you were partially right. For the time being my sex drives are quite normal but yet I believe I had a problem when it comes to addiction or I could call it better a continuous sedation because after I stop acting unemotionally I started having feelings I could never imagine. I felt vulnerable, I went through an emotional pain and a long process of acceptance and finally I can say that after almost a decade I fell in love with someone and even though our feelings are not mutual I feel I am a human being and not a senseless "robot". So, I like to think that some time I'll get over that person and I will move on for something new. 😊
@GreyGriffin93
I let myself feel whatever I feel and go bit by flow...
noth presure...
it makes it for mw easier to stop with things I don't like
@conscientiousPineapple1782
I lately stop with too mush perv stuff...more also not such active...I just thought what if this not truly me and not realy doing what I like...