I need help!!!!
I am currently in a marriage with the love of my life. I have hurt her many times in our relationship due to my sexual wants and needs. I hate myself everyday for the things that I have done. I will do anything in this world to prove to her that she is the only person I want to spend then rest of my life with. I have had in my mind an addiction to sex and at one time Pornographic addiction. She has never had a big sexual drive and that has created tension in our relationship. We were recently separated and in that time when we were going through divorce proceedings I did talk to someone new and it did get to a sexual point during communications. I did cut everything off with this person but that doesn't change or excuse anything. I need help getting over my wants for sex so much. I have been trying as hard as I can to work on myself but I still find that the majority of the time that I want sex. How do I get myself past this. I want to make my wife the happiest person in the world and I would do anything for her. I feel like this is taking a toll on so many aspects of my life and I just want to fix it. I hate it so much.
Maybe she needs more foreplay?
I think you should communicate more with her, talk about it, let what excites her be of more importance to you. As you should also try to take your mind off the things that stimulate you sexually, engage with others things. It’s gonna be a gradual process but you’ll get there soon enough
@jdm03ep3 in every relationship is always about 2 people, so it seems you are ready to sacrifice for her but what about your wife? What does she think about it? And it's totally normal to have different sex drives and different expectations, sometimes this happens in a couple. But you cannot just force yourself want sex, this is unhealthy for you and it won't work for long. Of course is sad you came to the divorce, but if you want you can try to work on it, maybe you can talk with a couple therapist or sexologist about it?
