porn affects my relationship life way too much

really i have not stopped watching porn since i was 13 (im 18, almost 19 now) and every girl i talk to i just want to have sex with. worst part is, its never worked, i have no idea how to talk to girls. its draining, ill match with a girl on tinder, and then within an hour she ghosts me. i have no idea what im doing, i feel pressured to have sex for whatever reason. i just feel more and more disappointed with myself every time i get ghosted. i feel like this links to my raging porn addiction because i cant go a day without masturbating.

after thinking about most of these encounters ive had, i think it comes down to two things:

-i am too aggressive when talking and just go straight into talkin about sex/them being pretty/etc.

-im too passive and dont take the hints im given.

i have zero idea how im supposed to fix this, like honestly i dont even know who i can talk to about this. lol