RSD

@neverhaveiprince

that's a hard one to answer. I guess it helps to have some solid and safe relationships in life that you can count on, to give you sense of stability and safety and not to be preoccupied with that one struggling relationship. Ie its good to be surrounded by positive, supportive people, like friends, family, coworkers, etc. it's like you diversify your relationships so to speak. in my simplistic understanding of RSD, we hyper-focus on one relationship and overreact to things. being able to change focus on someone or something else should help.

on the other hand, we know that ADHD is potentially caused by childhood trauma. so rejections can emotionally trigger us. If so, it's important to heal those old but raw wounds. you need some positive things to happen in your life, get re-parented, etc.

please let me know what you think.

@neverhaveiprince

What does RSD stand for?

I agree with diversifying your relationships. Different types of friends at various levels.

I think it's common for atypical folks to over invest, overshare, over everything any given relationship. We tend to over tax people sometimes. Then we perceive rejection when its not full on rejection, but just the other person trying to adjust the relationship to keep it in a healthy for them zone.

Changing how we think at these times might be helpful. When you feel pain of rejection, consider that the other person is also feeling pain and that a compromise or adjustment needs made. It does not have to be an all or nothing in most cases.

Having a broader group of friends for different kinds of interaction helps keep relationships healthy. The friend you relate to on a deep emotional level and share your deep stuff with, might not give a hoot about your favorite hobby. Its okay to have a hobby friend where that is the gist of the relationship and you do or discuss little else together. Another friend might be someone you just talk about news and politics with in am inttelectual way, but don't really get personal or emotionally deep with.

When I am sensitive to the limits of what others are offering, and mindful of boundaries, I get less rejection vibes.

I find it helpful to engage with others in low stakes ways. Like meetups or group activities. It's sort of like a fitness work out at a gym but for social issues for me. I have a good time and reinforce that I can interact with others in a positive way.

Just tossing one thing out. If you have this alot, you could also consider that you have alot of problematic people around you. I discovered this year's ago when I went through a list of traits of people with personality disorders. It's sort of a list if subtle forms of abuse. I found words for things I knew were wrong with my interactions with others, like my in laws for example, but could never put my finger on.

I found it at outofthefog.net. it's called 100 Traits or something like that. I read alot and started Maki g boundaries and use g tolls to minimize things and emotionally disconnected from harmful folks. It helped me alot.