Something about adhd and parents saying not believing i guess
Hello, I just wanted to say this since I cried earlier that my mom didn’t believe I might have adhd but I’m struggling now for some reason in vertical additions or just simple mental math (because kumon told me too :sob:, and yes I mainly use headphones whenever I do mental math) and its been really hard and getting more harder as I continue more and more into this teenage years thing.
I started researching about adhd when I was 11, now around 15-16 ish, I feel like that this possible adhd is affecting me so much that I start to forget often and losing words at times which makes me do the charade game thing.
I wasn’t usually like this as a kid or before like 14 there something with this noise are too much or I feel physical sensations and usually my problems were just mild and I usually forget and just smile away, and now I just can’t, earlier at school the aircon was humming which was the least problem but the echo of the classroom was so loud I can’t hear the teacher but the others can but when I started doodling I suddenly somehow started hearing the teacher better.. which was weird..
I really don’t know if this just “I need to fix my schedule thing and exercise more and cut sugar more” as what my mom is saying or a sigh to get an adhd assesment.. but the problem is.. how am i going to get that since im still a minor..
P.S. Sorry for dumping and venting too much.. i just wanna know if you guys also had the same experience
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I'm sorry your parents are dismissing what you are going through 💙
I’ve had a very similar experience to yours. Since I was young, I’ve struggled with attention and concentration. I would often zone out during class or while doing homework, and I found it difficult to give my full effort to things. As I grew older, the differences between me and the people around me became more noticeable. I truly understand the frustration and pain that comes with this. We may have to work a little harder than others, but you are not alone.
After spending many years thinking about and dealing with these challenges, I’ve found a few strategies that might help with some of the difficulties you mentioned. I hope they can be useful for you as well.
When it comes to forgetting things, I like to write everything down in a notes app or on paper. It sounds cliché, but it genuinely works. Keeping a visual record of the tasks we need to complete or the items we need to bring can reduce the stress of constantly wondering whether we forgot something. It also gives us a greater sense of security and control.
Focusing on just one thing at a time can be especially difficult for us. We often notice more sounds, movements, and details than other people do. This is partly because our brains have difficulty filtering stimuli due to lower dopamine activity. As a result, internal thoughts and external inputs—such as sounds, lights, and emotions—can all feel equally amplified. This can easily lead to sensory overload.
So when you say that noise feels unbearably loud, that isn’t your fault. It’s simply that our brains process the world differently.
Because of this, I would recommend studying or doing other high-focus activities in a quiet environment whenever possible. You can also turn off notifications and message alerts on your phone so that small sounds don’t constantly interrupt your concentration.
Another thing that might help is studying with a friend who is naturally focused and productive. Sometimes our state of mind is influenced by the people around us. Having someone studying alongside you can provide both accountability and a positive example to follow. It may not solve everything, but it could make some of these challenges a little easier to manage.
