is there anyone with adhd thats living a normal life

@heydudeswspunderscorewords

When I had Adhd i was happy,  unfortunately the people around me weren't.. I couldn't control myself at all and I would just do what I wanted.. I didn't have my mother and father disciplining me because they were busy at work so I basically ran wild. 🌲

@heydudeswspunderscorewords

Hi, 

I find my ADHD can leave me feeling isolated sometimes and I do consider it a disability. I've had times in my life where the people around me didn't understand or criticized parts of my personality due to my ADHD or autism. I have good and bad days. On the bad days I can't stand having ADHD and can only see the destruction and pain is causes me. On the good days I can see what an asset it can be, to think creatively, have oodles of energy and bounce around making friends wherever I go. 

For me, having every aspect of my life feel stable is a rare thing. I'm probably dropping a ball somewhere and knowing that has helped me be kinder to myself. I still catch myself trying to hold myself to neurotypical standards sometimes but having a supportive community behind me helps with that. 

I hope in time you come to have good days my friend. 

✨ Joy ✨

I think I am living close to a normal life with ADHD. I am making slow progress, and am content with the things that aren't normal about my life which I can't change.

My social life is fairly stable. My closest friends might both have ADHD. One of them talks to me all the time. She and I talk about anything and everything. My other friend and I go long periods without talking, but we think about each other and whenever we chat or visit it's like no time passed at all. I'm content with not having a lot of friends. I have a church small group that I meet with that provides a sense of community, but it takes me a long time to feel close with any group of people.

I am married to a man who loves and cherishes me as if I'm a part of him, even though I stress him out sometimes to the point that I feel like a burden. Somehow I managed to make his life better. We have a strong sense of companionship and we support each other. I still don't fully understand why he stays with me, though. Maybe you will experience the same thing.

As for relationship with family... for some reason the idea of calling family members that live far away is daunting to me. I don't know why. I feel ashamed that I don't call my grandparents. I do know that I've been very very tired the past several months from being pregnant and caring for a toddler. Calling people doesn't sound restful to me. My parents treated some of my quirks as endearing when I was growing up. They made cute comments about how I plodded along with whatever I was doing, and about my clumsiness. They just thought I was adorable, so I didn't get diagnosed until I was an adult and my cognitive needs were overlooked and unmet.

I'm reasonably healthy. I set reminders to eat and drink water. I've also found it helpful to go outside and either walk or sit in the sunshine.

Sports: To this day, I do not have the motor skills to play sports. Once I tried playing pickleball with my boss and coworkers, and I almost hit my boss in the face! I cannot be trusted with a racket or whatever.

Hobbies: I am not consistent with them, but I always enjoy coming back to them.

I hope this gives you hope. Your life might come together in surprising ways. I hope you find friends who simply enjoy being with you, and that you find activities you enjoy, even just for a little while.

@heydudeswspunderscorewords

Yes. There are people with ADHD who have stable friendships, loving relationships, good family connections, hobbies, work, health, and genuinely peaceful lives. ADHD does not mean that everyone around you is secretly tolerating you, pitying you, or waiting to leave.

What you’re describing sounds like a fear that ADHD makes someone fundamentally burdensome and that affection toward them can’t be genuine. That fear can feel convincing, but it isn’t a fact. People can be frustrated with someone sometimes and still genuinely love them. Friends can support someone without pitying them. A partner can make accommodations without seeing the person as a burden.

A healthy life with ADHD usually doesn’t mean “ADHD causes zero problems.” It means finding ways to make everyday life work with your brain instead of constantly fighting against it.

That’s actually part of why I use FOCO. I didn’t want another app that just tells people with ADHD to be more organized. FOCO is designed for the moments when you know what you need to do but can’t start, feel overwhelmed, or lose focus. It breaks things into small steps and helps you stay with the task until you move forward.

ADHD may be part of your life, but it doesn’t have to define the quality of your relationships, health, hobbies, or future.