Anxious by trying to connect with ppl (help pls)
Hello! First of all : I didn't know on what community to put this because I'm even struggling by naming this issue. I decided to put this on that community because it has to do with some anxious feelings.
I am really grateful for everyone who comments on this even if it's just naming this issue because I really need help on this. I'll keep it short : )
So I'm struggling with finding friends and connect with ppl since YEARS. I also got diagnosed with social anxiety. I had a gf and that was the only person I was truly close with the last 2-3 years but she broke up abt 3 months ago.So lately i met a girl online and she's nice and she thinks I'm sympathetic and I think the same of her so everything's great.(platonic friends ofc) but I observed that I got this ugly feeling. I can't name it. It's uncomfortable and I want to stop texting that girl and never want to talk again because I just panic. That's not just with her it's with everyone. It just feels WRONG to connect with people AT ALL. (I love meeting new ppl but then I feel like i want to run away and hide for ever alone in my room) it's not just anxious and panic, its also like "just not wanting too" . I don't know if all this is because of my ex or because of my social anxiety. I'm trying to find a solution for this problem but i don't even know exactly why I feel this way. That's because i was hoping that there are ppl who might can help me : ) Also thank you for reading all this
@communicativeApple9560
Possibly a mix of social anxiety and PTSD? Any PTSD from the breakup?
Oh this doesn't sound good haha I don't want to self-diagnose but I can't rule it out. Thank you so much for your answer: )
I am a 43 year old male. I have a hard time connecting to people. In the past I found that I can have a relationship in a work environment but outside of that I can’t. The connections I have made with my past coworkers ended when I stopped working with them. I self sabotage every relationship. I advise you to put yourself out there and never feel like you are a burden on people. Stop putting yourself down like you don’t deserve a healthy relationships in your life. Reach out if you need to speak. I regret secluding myself from possible connections with people. If you want to learn from my mistakes let’s get into it buddy. Be strong and know you deserve only the best!