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User Profile: conscientiousPond2974
conscientiousPond2974 November 16th, 2025

Well... It's a dilemma between leaving and staying. I love my home, my family, I've always done everything for them, absolutely everything. I help whenever I can and whatever is within my reach, but it never seems to be enough.

My mother separated from her husband a year ago, and now she's in a new relationship, but the guy is a jerk, he takes advantage of her, he already left once and caused her anxiety attacks to return.

We always argue about him, she even kicked me out of the house because of it. But I ended up going back home.

Because she was going to have surgery and would need care. During that time, he left.And now he's back.

I live like an invisible person in this house, but I stay because of it, because I love it, and because I know it needs my help. But sometimes it feels like I'm trapped here, like my life isn't moving forward.

I don't know if I should get a job and leave, or stay and continue helping her. She thinks I'm useless, but I always help with her job, I study at two universities, and I'm still studying hard for civil service exams.

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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 November 16th, 2025

@conscientiousPond2974

You are not useless.

And you love them and are doing your best.

They are taking that for granted and now you have to stand up and be counted and start putting you first.

Before time passes and you've sacrificed your happiness for people who haven't even noticed or appreciated it 💜💖

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User Profile: ploinkyboink
ploinkyboink November 16th, 2025

Your love for your mother is really beautiful and inspiring!! It really made be heartbroken to see whats happening. You know your life the best, so I know you can work this out. You're a caring and hardworking person. Don't forget to take care of yourself too!! 😋