No friends
I am a 25 years old girl and I have 0 friends. I just can't maintain friendships. Almost every woman that I meet is either a mean girl or just not the type of person that I want to be around.
Most of the time people are fake nice when I'm around and talk negatively about me behind my back. Girls are bothered by me not speaking all the time and by the fact that I'm quiet.
Also, most of the time the topics that are being discussed are not interesting to me and I have nothing to say.
Am I the problem or is my environment the problem??
I have had online friends from other countries but when it comes to real life friends I just can't do it.
Hi @Ivikiwi, i can relate to that, i also can't maintain friendships due to introversion and mostly social anxiety. Whenever I'm out in the society, i feel uncomfortable and whenever I'm communicating with people i run out of things to say. I also prefer social media to physical interactions. I believe that I just didn't find someone whom i share interest with. But the question is, is it true that people talk negatively behind your back or is it your brain imagining that, as I've seen in my case with social anxiety where I believe people are talking trash behind my back but the reality is that nobody has time to constantly do that. I don't know your situation but this is common for people with social anxiety.
For your question, i can't pin out where the problem lies as it might be caused by many factors, you might not have found the right person for you or you might just to an introvert by nature. Whatever the case, i highly advise that you don't make decisions based on what you think others thought of you as this only worsen the situation making socialization more difficult.
I hope you find happiness in your social interactions soon. Stay safe.
