Performance anxiety
I'm 28 and married, I am dealing with performance anxiety and trauma around sex. I am really struggling right now I'm fearful of my wifes reactions and or I'm struggling with my wife being upset in the instances something goes wrong. It sends me spiraling and I feel like im drowning and alone. Things did get alot better but she said she has to pretend everything was okay in those moments something were to happen. All though things got to a point where we didn't have any issues for months but something happened and set me back. I feel like now when something happens she's upset every time and I feel like I can't crawl out of the hole I'm stuck in and I dont want what to do or how to get unstuck from this hole. Without her reassurance I don't know what to do I start shaking and my heart starts beating out of my chest everytime we are messing around or about to. I just want to get back to where I was and I'm just unclear of how to get there.
i get what you’re going threw. my mind is currently racing with my own issues. just stay positive man. your wife loves you, that’s why you’re together….maybe find ways to be less focused on the issues. it could be your anxiety is the actual problem and the performance issues are the side effect. i know for me i get in my own head a lot and it’s usually the only thing from achieving my goal.
good luck brother
you got this!!