Scared of a little candle
When I was 14, my house burnt down and we lost everything. My abusive parents decided to place the blame on me even though I wasn't even home. During and after that experience, they never once tried to comfort me, and ever since I have had a crippling fear of any fire.
A few nights ago, I pledged to a social club (sorority. I'm a college freshman), and during the process we had to hold a lit candle inches from our faces. No one in this club knows about my fear, and I didn't want to make a deal about it, so I just dealt with it and tried not to faint or have a panic attack. Now, three days later, every time I close my eyes I see that flame, and feel the panic attacks coming. I haven't hardly slept out of fear of a fire or even seeing the candle. I could really use some support and anyprayers yall have to give for what I'm currently struggling with. I just want to stop seeing the flames every time I close my eyes. I honestly can't even charge my phone without worrying there will be a fire.
I can kinda understand where you are coming from ith the fire phobia. Whrn I was little(like 6 or 7 years old, my parents showed me pictures of people who had been badly scarred from bring burnt. Told me awful stories because "they wanted me to be careful around fire". I was, infact I was always far away from the fire. I became really afraid of it. To this day I'm scared of fire. I don't like burning candles, not even in glass jars. I'm always worried that the lady below me is going to fall asleep with her cigarettes and set fire to the apartment. I'm afraid of the gas stoves too. Phobias are not easily overcome, and some as with yours are experience caused. Do you have any thing that helps calm you? I usually turn to distraction, music or a comic book to help me relax and clear my mind of the thoughts.
