ANGER ISSUES. Pls help.
I’m just very short tempered and I believe people don’t like this thing in me but I’m satisfied with my personality but again sometimes it disturbs me when people tell me I need to control my anger issues. I’m not a bad person by heart, I’m just very straight forward that people can’t deal with it. I just need a good advice if I’m on a right track or not. Or maybe I’ll lose people around me? I don’t know... I’m just so lost. I’ve been like this since I had my bad times and I got to know about people. Since then, I don’t really get along with people that well. I’m only close to a few people and they keep telling me I’m short tempered and I need to control my anger. Just need a serious advice.
@bubbleKiwi3345
Hi, I can relate to what you've said especially when I was a few years younger. Anger definitely will take a toll on friendships if it keeps continuing or getting worse, just saying based on experience. I don't know if I can offer much help but I suggest to start envisioning yourself as the opposite. Envision yourself as a happy, calm, relaxed person. When you feel you are about to say something based on anger STOP immediately, take a deep breath, and think to yourself "will this issue be solved if I am angry?" More than likely, your answer will be no and you will find that things can be accomplished with a "whatever" attitude. If this doesn't help or if your issue is worse, definitely seek out professional help. Take care!
Thanks a lot. I would definitely remember what you said while I’m angry, maybe then it will be rlly helpful!! Thank you so much for your respone ❤️
@bubbleKiwi3345
Hey, sounds like you ate struggling to make sense of what to do and who you want to be. I don't have anger issues personally, people usually say the opposite that I nees to be more angry so don't have heaps of advice to dish. But I do think it comes down to: do yoy believe your anger outbursts are ok, that they're something you can get behind? Also, would you feel the same about others ppl behavior if they acted the same to you? It could be you just have a different way of telling things and being, and that you are just around people who you can't get along with because they are different. Only you can make up your mind whether what you do is ok behavior or it's not and you want to change.
Also, you said that you've been like this since you had a couple of experiences and learned about ppl. I wanna caution that tho your way of doing things can be a natural way of expressing yourself, if it stems from insecurities and hurt from bad experiences that may be worth adressing.
Those are my thoughts reading this anyway. Sorry you're feeling confused and it sounds like you're in a rough situation with a lot of uncertainties about what you wanna do. That is not an easy thing. Hope this helps and you find a way to figure out what you want and feel better. Like I said never had any anger issues myself (I'm the oppositr, can't ever seems to get angry even though I somehow want), so these are just the thoughts of a stray observer, take them as you want.
Thank you so very much for responding ❤️ I didn’t expect a reply from anyone lol bcos I thought why would anyone care !!?? Thanks a lot! This is really helpful.
