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User Profile: adaptiveSmiles62
adaptiveSmiles62 November 26th, 2018

its been almost 2 years and im finally happy and with someone else but sometimes when i kiss him i can still feel my abuser as if hes the one kissing back. i dont understand it. i shouldnt be feeling this way still.

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User Profile: calmPaul281
calmPaul281 November 26th, 2018

@adaptiveSmiles62

HI, Thanks for sharing what you are feeling right now.

I'm glad you are moving to a place where you can be happy finally. It must have been tough to go therough that abuse, and I get why what happened might still be in your mind and come back and catch you out occassionally .

I wonder if you have ever thought that there is no timescale to this and that people recover in different ways.

i shouldnt be feeling this way still. - maybe you dont what to feel like this, but you do still at the moment, although a lot of things have got better for you. I wonder what the difference is if you replace Shouldn't with dont want? And I wonder if that somehow makes it easier to work with where you are now with hope rather than feeling hopeless?

Hope this helps. I'm a listener here so let me know if you would like a chat.

Tajke care
paul