Feel Scared To Hurt Him
I've been seeing this guy for some time now, and he's really very sweet. After a long time I've felt like this for someone and I feel so scared to hurt him it makes me feel reserved. I suddenly go quiet around him ...there are things I want to tell him but that fear makes me so quiet around him, to the point that I regret not telling him
@lostintranslation28
Hi there, thank you for connecting. My name is Rosie.
I feel you would like to share some parts of your life with him. Am I understanding this correctly?
I guess if some parts are not so nice you are concerned about making him feel hurt.
It is good you are considering his feelings in this way. Have you guys been together long?
@lostintranslation28
Your post resonated with me because I've experienced similar feelings of not wanting to hurt the one I'm dating.
For me, it can be because I'm insecure about myself and I don't want to feel vulnerable by opening up to someone. It can also be that there are things I may have done that don't align with the other person's views and I fear being judged/not being accepted by them, or even that I might hurt them by telling them.
Are you able/comfortable with describing why you have these fears? What thoughts do you have surrounding telling him certain things? I think that it is important to be considerate of the other person's feelings, however I personally find it difficult to find a balance between their feelings and my feelings. I am interested in learning more about your situation if you are willing to share. I feel less alone reading your post.
@lostintranslation28 you should trust him and keep telling him what all you feel just dont be scared
