Old friends problem
I noticed a while ago a bit of a trend when talking to some of my old friends, ever since feeling obligated to talk to only one really abusive person all of last year I really lost contact with a lot of really close friends. I've met new friends and while I enjoy talking to them I still can't help but imagine conversations with some of my old friends too. I've talked to them a little even since then and while I have a feeling it's not them personally doing it I still can't help but feel really nervous around them. I don't know really what to talk about (as you could expect from not seeing someone in a while) but I feel really panicked to talk to them because I don't wanna loose them or more so keep on having the worrying thought luming over when thinking of rejoining with old friends that were just gonna drift away or that it's just gonna fall apart just like my ex-lover or something, Even if I know there's nothing that would cause that right now at least since the person that made me feel this way was already a jerk, to begin with. I really don't know how to talk to them even if I really want to and though I'm not shy in the slightest I'm really scared about this and I don't really understand why. If anyone can help or at least lend an ear to this, I'd greatly appreciate it! I really don't wanna be this way when I know it shouldn't be this way! Please help if you can.
@Mikathewolfdog hey there.. I'm not sure if I can advise u , but I face a similar predicament, coz even tho I am in therapy and there are certain people from my past that want to reconnect with me , I can't do it. I guess the pain is there sometimes directly sometimes indirectly. And actually I've been at the receiving end too, there's a v close mate who I lost contact with years back.. every time I try to talk I mean literally just say hello I'm met with monosyllabic conversation so I've just left it be.. if ever there's a chance in the future to explain maybe i will .. but till then I've left it be..
You are under no obligation to reconnect especially if Ur not up to it..
I dunno if what I said made any sense..
@Mikathewolfdog
Perhaps you're nervous around them because they remind you of the abusive person you once knew? Like it stirs up unpleasant memories?
Have you tried talking to them about this? Or maybe doing more things with them would help you loosen up and feel better.
