Overwhelmed and panicked
Hi guys, I’ve never posted on here before so bear with me. Lately I’ve been so overwhelmed and panicked. I’m overwhelmed and panicked that I won’t be graduating university till I’m 24. I’m saddened that I’ll most definitely have to leave my small home town to find work. I’m yet to get my driving license. I just feel so behind, like I have nothing to show for myself. The idea of having to fund my own wedding, save to buy a house and prepare for my first child is all too much. The stress keeps me awake at night and I have this horrible tension that spreads from my chest to my shoulders. I study a creative degree and worry I’ll fail or not be good enough. I’ve fallen behind in my school work and can’t imagine how I’ll catch up. On top of that, I’m looking for employment. I’m 21 and living at home. Should I be paying my own way by now? Contributing to the bills and buying my own food? When I can bring myself to sit at my desk and write, nothing but a few lines comes out. I would love some advice. Thanks
I feel that way sometimes too, that I'm not doing enough compared to others my age. I can see how stressful those thoughts can get, but you have to remind yourself that we're all at different stages in our lives, regardless of age. It's not a very productive thought to compare yourself to your peers, since most of them had a different upbringing compared to you. I didn't get my DL until I was 19 because my family couldn't afford car insurance until then. I still live with my father because it's convenient for the both of us, and I'm 23. You needn't be so worried about how you think others view you or that you feel behind. You will get to where you're going in your own time, and just focus on you, not others. I hope you find this sorta helpful, and if you want to talk further, I'll try to respond promptly.
I completely understand. Sometimes I feel like I’m not enough or where I should be for my age. I would say to try your best to focus on what you can do and take steps towards what you want to do. Grow your confidence and share your gratitude you are creating! You can do it!