SHOULD YOU LOSE ON PURPOSE?

@scarletPear1945

I think that's a really hard question! It sounds like you're a little confused because what you were brought up to believe in contradicts what others believe.

It also sounds like you care about the feelings of others, which is very considerate of you! In my opinion, it's fine to lose on purpose as long as you feel that your reasons are justified, but that's just my opinion! A suggestion would be to do whatever feels right. I think some people may be disheartened if you deliberately lose because it seems like they're not good enough for you to play properly (although I wouldn't know if this is the case for you, since I don't know completely what's going on!). However, others may be motivated if they win and this may further encourage them to pursue their interest in the games you're playing.

I hope this helps and sorry if you found it offensive; that wasn't my intention! All the best and take care. <3

@scarletPear1945

Hello Pear!

I don't think that there's something wrong with losing on purpose, but at the same time I wonder if it's necessary. That's the kind of thing that you might do with children or maybe someone developmentally challenged, but it would be a rare adult who would stop playing with you simply because you were a better player.

I love to play games, but I'm actually pretty bad at them! Winning or losing, I have fun and enjoy playing with people who are kind. It's things like people making fun of mistakes that make me not want to play games. In fact, I imagine if you helped people with small pieces of advice, you would be really fun to play with.

I grew-up in competitive sports and still have that competitive side of me. When winning and losing, I was taught value in both that I still carry today. It really depends on how the winner (if me) or the loser (if me) responds to the game. I have no tolerance for a sore loser. The worst thing a loser can do is find everything to nit-pick. The worst thing a winner can do is gloat in arrogance about his accomplishment through use of his ego, somewhat similiar to how bullies act.

I am currently facing the biggest loss I have ever sustained in life. For me, it wasn't a game, it was a game-changer that I don't know how to fix or can recover completely from. The "coaches" of whom I depended on were not like the coaches I was guided with in sports. In my game of life, the rules of the unfamiliar sport I was left to play a constant defense in didn't provide for a fair game because the other team didn't play the game by the rules. How does one have a chance when not knowing them? I depended on coaches who also advised me in life decisions of which further led to a loss didn't think was possible as a risk in the game. Or else, I wouldn't have played it at all.

Its not so much as the depth in that loss that pertains to my response here, but the way I lost was completely against logic, rules, laws, and contributed to basic violations and protections we all beleive we have and can defend on our own. The winner didn't win at all and the losses are yet to be sustained by many others, but eventually will if the game is played the way I personally expereinced.