What I have trouble with
Hello, Ever since school started I've been having a lot of issues with anxiety and over thinking
I rarely stop overthinking and I get anxiety all the time with it, the stress mostly comes from school I'm 11 "sorry I had to sign up this young I didnt know where else to go" and I recently started 6th grade, I've went to other places I usually go on like v3rmillion or talk to people on discord, sometimes I get temporary solutions but the next day I wake up not wanting to get out of bed overthinking and being just sad about everything, I do online school and I have homework, last year I wasnt paying attention and got pretty bad grades,you might think online school is probably easier, It really isn't, you have a lot more pressure on you because everything is so much more known to the teacher so its hard to do it, there are matireals that you need to do a lesson and sometimes I have them and sometimes I dont, I've spoken with my mom about this and she just told me that If I wanna stop having whatever then to study, she isnt very supportive and uses trigger words that make me overthink more, I cant do much about it considering I'm young and cant really do a lot about it but talk to people, almost anything makes me overthink and it honestly sometimes gets to me I get to a point where I almost wanna cry "or have cried" and I waste my day thinking about these things, I tell myself to stop thinking about it and sometimes I do stop thinking *sometimes*, the stress comes from my homework and my grades, I am religious and have been questioning it since yesterday cause I've seen some things like videos or forum posts about it and pretty much any small thing that messes me up Makes me think about it for longer than I can imagine, I find it hard to do things without overthinking, I dont really have much to grasp or a goal to achieve like a game to enjoy after I stop overthinking, I'm trying my best to explain pretty much everything that I have an overthought of and cant let go, I think most of my stress comes from school or something else like religion and questioning the existence of god I know he is real but I just question myself, This is odd as I've been told for an 11 year old, I have some other things that make me worried and overthink like highschool or collage, thats what I can think of there is more but this is what I overthink about a lot. I really wanna get this over with,
@DreiK
It will pass over time. Sixth grade was the hardest for me (and seventh). People were going through awkward changes growing up, and they were awkward with each other. You are approach adulthood at a time where more information is available to so many people than ever before in recorded history. So, to a certain extent, it is natural to feel anxiety from being presented with so many choices and so many questions.
I recommend turning off the news sources if you watch them. Focus on school and inner thoughts, meditation, and prayer. If you remove some of the stimuli, you will remove some of the anxiety. Above all at 11, be patient and forgive yourself and others as you go through chances to become an adult.
Why do I bother with people no matter what I do they don't like me no matter how much I treat them nicely
@tallSugar4889
Unfortunately, good friends are really hard to find. There are a lot of those who are not true friends but users who only take advantage of friendships and those theyre friends with for their own pleasure.
This is why Im giving up on trying to please everyone, and Im placing more priority on finding a strong network of real friends rather than looking for romantic relationships.
I know it sucks when you try to be nice to people and reach out and they dont reciprocate (at best) or beat you down (at worst). Sometimes I wonder if theres a lack of empathy and overall compassion in todays world. Either that or Im just too old-school for todays world
i think the same too maybe we are are old schooled but we have got decency people these days are out for what they can get not for what they can do. Just two days ago the water company that supplies water in my area had a problem they went knocking on doors just to ask for samples of water everyone declined but me i said help yourself there was only me and one other person who said that out of so many people i think that's why people treat us like that because we decent people reading your threads i know you decent and thank you so much for that and being true to others @AbbyHarris1976
@tallSugar4889
Thank you! 🙂
It is really hard to find good friends in this day and age, though. I met a millennial friend of mine (who is also a 7 Cup listener, believe it or not) at a coffeehouse and challenged him on this - he was saying that there was a generation gap causing our friendship to falter and that young people of his generation tend to be narcissistic and selfish and I asked him, Okay, but is that how YOU want to live your life?.
what did he say when you asked him @AbbyHarris1976
@tallSugar4889
He was like ... "Yeah, but ..." and I said, "No buts! Do YOU want to be like that? You're a listner on 7 Cups!". His reply when he found out that I knew he was a 7 Cups listener was, "OK, so ... ?" and that discussion topic ended, so he was obviously beating around the bush and trying to find an excuse and couldn't come up with a good explanation. Needless to say, I was rather disappointed by his response ...
It is for that reason why I do not seek out listeners on & Cups ... I'll allow some to come to me and discuss issues, but I'm okay with just posting on forums and feeds.
