When I feel jealous I can't sleep
Sometimes I feel so much jealousy because my partner is interacting with other girls that I lack sleep that night. What should I do to not let this affect me that way?
Jealousy can be even worse, but I'm glad that you acknowledge the problem, because Its impossible to solve a problem if you refuse to acknowledge it or how you feel about it.
Discuss it with yourself, is jealousy justified? In terms of:
Does he spend less and less time with you, yet, he spends more time with other girls?
Is his mind elsewhere even when you are together?
Is he flirtious with other women?
Are there clear signs that there are things that are going behind your back?
If two or three of these questions answers are true, then I would suggest to be honest with your partner, If youre suffering from jealousy, your partner has probably already noticed.
If your partner isnt giving you a reason to be suspicious or jealous (ie. by cheating on you or the answers up there are a clear YES), its up to you to manage the source of your jealousy. Recognize that you dont need jealousy, because it only consumes you. I'd recommend practisingh self-cafe and nurture your physical, emotional and mental health. When you prioritize healthy coping mechanisms, they become the norm and eventually replace jealousy and all the other feelings that follow jealousy, like feeling fear towards the prospect of him leaving you or cheating on you.
@Dexter99
He talks frequently with a lot of girls. He says they are his friends but I saw they do flirt a bit. We live in London and he wants to visit one in Paris and another was coming to London and staying at his bedroom. And that one did send him a strange message one night like "I need someone to take care of me" and he told me that cause he also found it strange but than he tells me that she wants to come to London and of course she would stay a his place. At the end I don't think she came because I said I didn't feel comfortable... But then after a while he told me he was visiting this other girl because they have history together and his dad wants to know him and he will stay at her house, I didn't felt that much well but I told him he it was ok gofor him to go if he arrange something with me first. Now I had to come to my family because of Corona and we call once everyday and say goodmorning and goodnight but to me everything seems very flat... not much enthusiasm from him. He was quite sad at me for leaving... So the first days were pretty difficult, now it's starting to be easier but on the calls he's never just speaking with me he is most of the times doing something else as well and I dont know if I can lead with all of that much... what would be your advice?
@anasousa25 also when he told me that those girls are coming I do make a lot of questions and for this girl in Paris I remember asking if the boyfriend was ok with him and he said he hates him and after I said something like ohhh if he likes you.... And then he becomes furious at me and a lot of times this happens
He becomes furious at me whenever I show that I may not totally trust him but I don't feel like he's making the effort as well to make me trust him... Is that very wrong from me?
@anasousa25 if he hates you*
I'm not
but you're a Hera
Good luck
