Why ?
Hi,
I wonder why when I respond to an insult I feel so bad later, or why when I am in a group and I ask a question I feel bad later. I am always so afraid of hurting people's feelings that I avoid social interactions because of the stress. I cannot relax and just be myself. Anyone else has these problems? How do you handle them?
My mother was a narcissist and a master at making me feel guilty about my feeling, expressing them and second guessing my own thought process. Defend yourself no matter who is attacking your verbally or physically! The key for me was if someone was trying to hurt me verbally with words, their behavior says a lot about them and how unhappy they are on this planet! It has nothing to do with me, I’m just the person in the room. Dont carry guilt about shutting the attack down. You arent the bad person, you’re someone who has boundaries and that is healthy! My mother hated me for having boundaries, but i needed them to live! We all need them! Embrace your boundaries! ☮️