Breaking the mantra?

@Tiiker101

Now you are talking my language. This is the world I come from. Let me sort this out.

I would like to talk to you about the first two items, "I'm stupid" and "I am terrible at my job." You know, it's could be true. Not everyone is smart. Statistically, half of everyone is of below average intelligence. Truth, right?

Second, you are terrible at your job. I can see that being the case. If a brick layer has a go at being a car mechanic, or an interior decorator tries to lay concrete, well, both are going to be terrible at their jobs. No shame in that. It's not where their skill lies.

But the third. Oh, the "Everyone hates me." Now, that's the one that is the problem. You see, society has us looking at stuff like career, body shape and image, money, intelligence, employment position, sexual skills and attraction. The list goes on.

Now, who really is comfortable being judged by that criteria? Who is comfortable judging others that way? I am not.

The fix is to see how you treat others or, more importantly, how you SHOULD treat others. The reality is you can be as dumb as a stump and the worst person at your job. It might get you fired, but it shouldn't get you hated. Besides, the currency of looks, job skill, or intellingence really isn't all that important anyway.

My nephew is autistic. He is not very intellingent. He knows this. He also knows that whatever job he takes, he is not very fast and may not be the best at it.

But this kid loves. OMG, does he know how to love. The big bearhug that you get from his 6'5" 280Lb frame is almost painful, but it's pure love. He doesn't care how smart someone is, or sexy, or tall, or fat, or thin. He just gives love as it is the currency he deals in. And yet, here we are, judging ourselves based on intellingence and job performance.

People will reflect energy. If you have no love for yourself because, as you say, you are stupid or bad at your job, ,well, who would love you if you don't love yourself? You see?

The reality is, just by existing, you are worthy of love and compassion. Hate is the devil's work.

I rambled a bit here but I hope it helped. You take care, and I know if we ever talk, I will find something in you to like and enjoy conversing with.