In need of some advice. Please
Hi everyone,
I get nervous when it comes to eating in front of people. I can't eat around anyone at school, and someof the times my family.
Anyway next week I have school camp (three days two night)and my anxiety food problems have never been worst. In the previous year I could manage it enough for the teachers not to get suspicious but this year I'm having serious doubts.
Any advice?
Why can't you eat around them? Are they bother you or what's wrong?
Because I'm so scared of them judging me by what I eat and how I eat. It's easier to skip meals than to eat in front of them and then spend the rest of the day overthinking it.
Have someone ever judge you for this before?
I understand what you mean....you want to look good or normal....not s if you'rejust gulping down everything .. just relax and enjoy your food, start up aconversationor sit near an eventful place that will take away any unwanted attention. Just have fun..they won't judge you everyone has their own way of doing things
Everyone eats. You should not worry about eating in front of people, in a way people might judge you more for not eating in front of them. You're a beautiful person!
Anyone who judges people for how they eat needs to rethink their priorities. & if they're that kinda person they'll be too busy judging everyone else to even remember their judgments about 1 person. Anyway they're wasting their time & you shouldn't have to. You said it's a school camp. I'm a college student & all through school & college I've drank straight out of a 2 liter soda bottle, crunched chips up & ate em w/ yogurt ect. No one cares. Even people who say something are usually just joking & don't care. There's no right way to eat. I've turned a lotta people onto my unique eating habits ;)
Hello Olive
You mentioned that you're anxious about eating in front of others because you think they are judging what you eat and how you eat.
What makes you feel this way?Has anyone criticized what you ate, and how you ate before, or have you witnessed someone doing it to someone else and it made you conscious of your own eating habits?
You also said that it is easier to skip meals than to spend the day over-thinkinga meal you had in front of someone.
How often do you skip meals. When do you eat through out the day.
What do you think would help you cope with this anxiety better?
Have you considered seeing a professional in your area about this?
If you would like to discuss this further you can contact me anytime. Wishing you the best
-Crys
Hi Crys,
Well since I was very young I have been really fussy. And occasionally people would make small comments and side comments about what I eat. This might be some of the reasons why I'm so anxious about eating in front of people maybe. Then in year 8 (I'm in year 11) I started skipping school lunches because my friend group back then hated me and I wasn't comfortable in front of them and skipping meals made me feel like I had a little control. Now whenever I eat in front of anyone (even family) I hate the feeling of food in my mouth and I hate the anxious thoughts that follow.
I pretty much always eat breakfast.It's very veryrare I eat at school and if I do then it's something very small that somebody gave to me. I sometimes skip dinner (probably once or twice a week). On the weekends I usually eat whenever but sometimes I might skip a meal depending on what I'm doing.
Honestly, I have no idea how to deal with this problem. And I have considered seeing a professional about a lot of things but I don't think I ever will.
Thank you,
Olivia
I see, It sounds like your "friends" during that time made you uncomfortable and self-consious about yourself. And you felt like changingwhere you ate gave you something you could control.
Is it possible you can message me, and we can work on some solutions together.
If you'd like.
Hi Crys,
I tried messaging you but because I'm only a teen it wouldn't let me.
Olivia
I understand, it sounds like you are aware that this anxiety is a problem, and that you'd like to make it better.
What steps would you be willing to take, to reduce your anxiety of eating around others?
More importantly, what kind of thoughts/perceptions do you associate with eating and control, would you address about yourself(as I would assume it has a lot more to do than simply eating but how you feel about yourself in general) ?
Feel free to correct me if I am wrong.
(I'm sorry you weren't able to connect with me by the way)
I honestly have no idea where I could go to get professional help orwhat steps are invovled.
You mentioned you were a teen? I imagine there are counseling service available at your school. And if you aren't comfortable with that, you can ask them to reccomendoutside counseling/therapy.
I get nervous when I eat as well! Usually what I do is goon Twitter and scroll through my feed or watch a video or basically play on my phone!
I get nervous when I eat as well! Usually what I do is goon Twitter and scroll through my feed or watch a video or basically play on my phone!
I no how u feel.. u would always pack some of my own food & snack on then when I need 2.. & when U have 2 all sit together & eat just have a lil bit of food when mates are and eat later.. Hope i have been some sort of help.. GOOD LUCK.. ☺..
Hey @Olive12
I really understand where you're coming from--I struggled with this for a long time and still have various issues surrounding food, but it's definitely possible to overcome it. I'd be happy to talk more about this with you sometime if you'd like, feel free to shoot me a message (I'm an adult listener, but I listen to teens too)
Hey there,
I have an issue. I am also so nervous around people and very awkward. I get nervous to make phone calls unless it is completely silence and even then i can barely understand the person while pressing the up volume button on my phone. I get anxious when i dont have anyone i know around me, i hate being alone, and i cant stand when a person leaves me or tells me to do something by myself. I can't stand to be around people and i get very scared. how can i get over this fear of being alone? someone please help thank you.
Hey there,
I have an issue. I am also so nervous around people and very awkward. I get nervous to make phone calls unless it is completely silence and even then i can barely understand the person while pressing the up volume button on my phone. I get anxious when i dont have anyone i know around me, i hate being alone, and i cant stand when a person leaves me or tells me to do something by myself. I can't stand to be around people and i get very scared. how can i get over this fear of being alone? someone please help thank you.
I have the same problem as you. Like literally everything you mentioned. I get really anxious around new people especially guys. I can't go out alone because I'm afraid what people will say . But the thing is the you won't see the person on the other line again. Maybe once or twice but that's it. In the beginning I couldn't make any phone calls to strangers because I was afraid that it would be awkward but everything comes with practice. I started making the phone calls for takeout or customer service and it really helped. Also , if you're afraid to be around new people don't worry about it. Everyone in the room is in the same situation as you. If you say something they don't like then hey move on to the next person. That person isn't your only option. You could start off complimenting someone on what they wear or what appeals to you . GOOD LUCK 😊😊😊