Social anxiety?
I dont know if it qualifies but I can never seem to talk to new people IRL ( theres only one person I feel comfortable around) most days I'm quiet I speak when I am spoken to .. I work but people make me nervous and all I hear in my head is that anything I have to say is stupid .. I'm in constant fight or flight mode it causes issues at work because people already think I'm dumb then I just have a outburst if I feel attacked.. I feel lost.
hey, @unloveableevilugly!
I DO NOT LIKE YOUR PROFILE NAME!!!! please change it?! the first step in stopping your social anxiety is stopping to believe that you are unlovable, evil, and ugly!
i had those stuff in high school. it was so depressing! i feel you! its so horrible to feel all this. would you see a therapist to help you work this out? also, i read 2 great books written by Dr Aziz Gazipura, and it really helped me. At that point, i had ZERO friends. right now i have many friends and acquaintances. i would love to help you, PM if you'd like to talk.
https://www.amazon.com/Solution-Social-Anxiety-Break-Shyness-ebook/dp/B00F5IU5CU
https://www.amazon.com/Not-Nice-Pleasing-Speaking-Unapologetically-ebook/dp/B076VVH14M
Its the hard truth I must face .. There is something wrong with me .. If I like someone I turn into that.person in constantly depressed and lonely I'm obsessive I'm.pathetic .. Idk if there is hope.for me in old maybe its all over.
There is nothing wrong with you! Everyone has their things they need to work on. It doesn’t mean you’re hopeless, stupid, or any of the other things that our minds tell us we are. I know how hard it is to live ourselves ! I’m darn near 30 and I still struggle with those thoughts. You are not alone! And you are absolutely worthy of people loving you! And it is not at all over! Please if you need help, reach out to someone. Even if it’s just on this platform for now!
Hi @unloveableevilugly!
There is no problem with not being able to find any new friends because if no one wants to be your friend you can already know they won't be there for you when you need them. That's why I must say that the problem begins when you alone have stopped looking for other people which can be really hard since as human beings we are very social "animals". But as you said you have one good friend, which is great, but as a person, you must definitely have some interests in different activities and those are places where you will most definitely find someone who will understand you. And that is because you met him/her at the exact place you love and that is already a positive side of that newly made friend.
And not being able to speak until spoken too is again a problem connected to not being around a lot of people but no worries because each person is different and when you feel like talking you will definitely start talking.
But otherwise I hope you find any sort of help you are looking for and take care :) <3
@matt your reply is so invalidating but I guess thank you for responding really if you don't have issues thats great but maybe just leave those of us who do alone big bully.
