Social feedback tips?
I have constantly worry about bombing interviews, networking ect & when I'm working I literally constantly worry about getting fired. I have a hard time telling when people are happy w/ me & when they're disappointed. It usually comes as a shock to me when they're disappointed so I try to be attentive to signs but now I see everything as a sign. I've literally been convinced everyone in my life hated me or was annoyed w/ me at some point. Any tips?
What type of jobs have you worked at, and what type of job would you like?
I'm looking for tech internships. I've worked a variety of past jobs. Most went well. The paranoia about getting fired is because of a couple incidents where something went wrong & my bosses talked to me about it & I assumed I was gonnaget fired
Sometimes it's a matter of finding what you like to do in order to feel confident about your work, if that makes sense. Or, maybe you'd be better off being your own boss. Check online for career interest profiling. O*Net has a good interest to career matching questionnaireon their page.
I'd love to be my own boss. I just also need a regular job until I can support myself just from my tbd business. But my crap social skills make that a struggle too. I was wondering if I was kidding myself thinking I could start a business but I made up my mind that I'm gonna try
Going to school with social anxiety is SO HARD. I want to talk to people but I can't, I can't walk into classes late, ill hold onto an apple core for 45 minutes just so I don't have to walk in from of everyone, I'm so afraid someone will try to speak to me, I get so nervous around people, so nervous
That's so true it hurts. I'm constantly worried about what people think about me, i can't walk down the hallways without being positive that everyone's staring at me, its so horrible. Presentations aren't even possible with social anxiety, even on good days! I've started skipping a lot of school because of it, and I was a straight a student.
I feel ya. In some ways the crowds are a blessing in disguise though. I went to a k-12 for middle school. I was 1 of 4 middle schoolers & most of the students were little kids. People were literally always staring at me, always all up in my business. I switched schools for high school because I wanted a bigger class. Suddenly barely anyone was looking at me. I was 1 kid in a huge crowd. People were minding their own business. I had other people to copy if I was stuck about how to act in a situation. & most convosw/ strangers at school are super quick anyway. People are usually just like "hey" or "nice shoes" & you can just say hey or even just nod. I know it can be anxiety-provoking at the time but looking back is was a great baby step to ease into the real world
Yeah, its just the idea that's scary, right? Just keep thinking about how it will all be fine in the end kinda helps.